Online Dating Blog

Single Men: How To Be MANLY

2012-01-08T16:05:00.000+08:00

Hi, guys! Looking around the web dating scene, particularly internationally, I notice that some of you tend to have some problems with this whole being-one-of-the-guys thing. No, it's not your fault! We've had a couple of generations of declining marriage (more single parents, fewer dad role models), "political correctness" (and the people who mis-apply it), and "feminazis" (as opposed to true feminists). This tends to sap the testosterone out of the dating pool until we have a bunch of metrosexuals standing around complaining that they get friend-zoned all the time.

If that means you, here's the emergency fathering in the art of manliness you should have had:

Never say "It's too hard." or "It's not fair." Say "I'll handle it." Guys are not sexy when they're passively sitting there waiting for life to happen around them. What are you, a feather blowing in the breeze, or a charging bull who will take charge of their own destiny?

You don't have to explain for yourself so much. Why did you go out for a walk alone last night? Because you're a guy. Why do you insist on fixing your own brakes instead of turning the car over to the shop? Because you're a guy. Why do you swear so much? Because you're a guy. No, don't even explain that part. Just be. And please stop announcing "I have to go to the bathroom" and then standing there like you're waiting for somebody to give you permission to pee.

When you hit on a girl, make it clear. Not "Do you maybe want to hang out some time?" like you're inviting your sister to your clubhouse. It's "I enjoy being with you and I'd really like to take you out next weekend at 6 PM." Wow! Decisive, confident, assured!

Challenge yourself. I don't mean "challenge yourself" to finish the last eight levels of Call of Duty on nightmare difficulty, either. I mean take up new skills, seek a promotion at work, fix things, strike out for new horizons, climb a mountain. It's not so much the sexist ideal of "be a hero for your damsel", now it's more about "quit being a mama's boy still living in your parents basement who whines about everything."

Read! I know, you're reading this blog right now. But do you know when we poll women and ask "what's the first thing you notice when you visit a guy's place for the first time", one of the top answers is "whether he has books on his shelf"? A guy who reads is someone with an opinion more relevant than "I dunno" and conversational topics beyond sports and video games. He's someone who thinks and has ideas. Even just a couple of dime-store paperbacks tossed around for appearances' sake is something.

Further reading: Art of Manliness.

Signs Of Trustworthiness In A Mate

2011-12-07T11:42:00.000+08:00

Don't worry if you have some anxiety when you start entering into a serious relationship. It's human! We've all been lied to at least once, and those heels who use us and leave us are the ones making it bad for the rest of us. When you're wondering whether you and your online dating partner are developing a trusting relationship, here are five signs of reassurance:

They don't have a dysfunctional history of relationships - This is a big one that many people miss. A floozie with twenty disaster stories about past relationships is likely going to make you #21.

They have integrity with everyone else - From the busboy to the boss to their mother to the police, they lead an honest life.

They're accessible - Every time you call, they answer. Every time you want to see them, it's "come right over".

They spend their free time with you - Obviously, the more time they spend with you, the less time they spend looking for anybody else.

They've let you meet their friends - This is the most promising sign of all. When you've been proudly introduced to everyone, it means they intend to make you a permanent fixture.

Dating - How to Tell When You Have a Codependent Partner

2011-11-09T16:26:00.000+08:00

Every now and then, we see people asking if something is wrong with their boyfriend or girlfriend. It's good to take a refresher course in potentially damaging relationships, such as this WebMD article on recognizing codependents.

Along with this article, here's some quick warning signs:

They never seem to have fun. Their emotions are suppressed in everything, in fact; everything is "just OK" with them.

Low self-esteem. Never feeling that they're good enough.

The slightest change upsets them.

Impulsive. They never think a relationship problem through, instead just looking for a quick fix.

Zero self-confidence, as if they still thought of themselves as children.

Clingy and insecure.

Fear of strong emotions. Especially internalizing everything that's around them, like if you got upset because your car broke down they'll think you're mad at them.

They're a living doormat.

The thing with codependents is, sure you can love them and even have a relationship with them, but they will burn you out. The load is all on you. If you think you have a codependent, consider counseling and therapy to try to treat issues, and also consider that they may be diagnosed with anxiety or depression, which tends to go together with codependent behavior.

eHarmony's New 12 Rules of Dating - Some Amendments

2011-09-03T08:36:00.003+08:00

Eh, we might as well netter about this eHarmony list, posting their 12 rules of dating. eHarmony somehow became the AOL/Yahoo of dating sites, and we mean that in the "get with the times, grandpa!" way. But they've nevertheless stumbled upon a decent list, much of it being the same things we say here all the time, only without the needless slideshow of stock images to go with each paragraph.

Some more things to consider:

Get used to getting less attention - The electronic age is filled with distractions, and it's also brought global reach to our fingertips. The result: more Long-Distance Relationships between people who are too busy half the time with work, school, and recreation. Having a relationship in the 2000s might mean less cuddle-time and more a text message between breakfast and the 6 o'clock news.

Be more forgiving of faults - The eHarmony list makes a point, twice, that your online history and every drunken picture of yourself is online forever for everyone to see. Yes, and the flipside of that is that we can all stand to be a little more tolerant of a potential mate's dirty laundry. Because we all have our own, don't we?

Show off more - To add to the whole "your online history is with you forever" thing: what about if you left some positive things for potential dates to find? Your blog about your crazy hobby, your discussion online where you gave some helpful advice to a clueless newbie, your membership in the Electronic Frontier Foundation, pictures of you accepting first place in the spelling-bee contest. People today are looking for deep, multifaceted personalities, people who are driven and passionate and accomplish things.

Be more secure and self-confident - Quit worrying about yourself so much! If you even care about being attractive, you're ahead of most of the heels out there already.

Shocking News: Looking "Too Good" Can Sabotage Your Online Dating Prospects!

2011-06-27T14:59:00.001+08:00

Here's the story, read it yourself: OKCupid research reveals that better-looking gals have worse luck through the site. Since the story doesn't go too deep into the speculation, allow us to give you some ideas as to why this might be true:

1. Guys thinking "She's out of my league!" Guys have a very specific idea of what kind of woman will usually settle for them. They get rejected all the time. Years of yes-or-no feedback gives them great statistical data on their batting averages.

2. Guys thinking "She's too high maintenance!" The more mature gentleman knows that girl-next-door good looks will do just fine, but when you get into super-model territory, you know that with that hot body is going to come a requirement to work out all the time and stay on a restrictive diet - hardly the recipe for a fun party girl! It's a stereotype, but sometimes it's true.

3. Guys thinking "She's fake!" Let's face it, this is the era of computing when a suspiciously perfect photo may mean: (a) it's not yours, (b) it was a long time ago, (c) maybe you're a scammer, or (d) it's been Photoshopped. In this era of computer CGI blowing away every movie in the theaters and every photo on a magazine cover being airbrushed to robotic perfection, a few extra pounds and the occasional bad hair day or visible mole feels refreshingly... honest. True, you may be 100% legit and look like a movie-star anyway - but how do you assure them of that?

4. Guys who are genuinely into alternative ideas about beauty. Just like not every lady wants a man with washboard abs and a chiseled chin, not every man wants a perfect Barbie doll. There's even - God bless them! - a segment of men who prefer overweight women; they're called 'BBW' for 'big beautiful woman'. Other men are just a freak for a freckly face, dark hair, or plain-Jane 'girl next door' looks.

OK, don't go running out and try to make yourself uglier just based on one site survey! But take it for the encouraging news that just because you have one or two imperfections doesn't mean that you're out of the game.

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Dating Research Uncovers Two Different Types of Friends with Benefits Relationships

2011-04-12T11:53:00.002+08:00

Initial research on casual sex has revealed two different types of friends with benefits relationships.

“Pure” friends with benefits occur between existing friends and involve physical gratification, as well as emotional intimacy.

“Sex buddy” relationships tend to occur with strangers or acquaintances and only involve physical gratification. If you’ve experienced either of these relationships we’d love to hear your experiences.

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The Importance of Sound Judgment in Online Dating

2011-01-24T09:31:00.003+08:00

We've probably seen the rules of safe online dating before, but it's always good to take a refresher course. This guide on sound online dating judgment is a very thorough one. It seems to be written a little more from the female point of view, but men should remember that there's a few risks for them too, from time to time. OK, Tarzans? Remember that not every Jane you find has your best interests at heart.

"Sound judgment" is a phrase you almost don't hear these days. Everybody's afraid to judge. "Oh, I don't want to exclude anybody or hurt their feelings." Yes, but there are places in the world with predators stalking who barely can be said to have feelings at all! Judgment is really made up of instinct and experience.

Your instinct comes form your animal side. Years of evolution has shaped our responses to our environment in uncountable little ways, most of them unnoticeable. The shot of adrenalin that follows a "flight or fight" response, the urge to utter a noise when something startles you, and the prickly feeling on your arms and neck when something spooks you are all bits of animal instinct that follows back to our earliest ancestors. Listen to your instincts, and they'll usually read you the right way.

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A New Advice Expert For the Ladies

2011-01-18T09:39:00.000+08:00

We like what we hear so far about Dr. Diana Kirschner's new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. Especially since the article lists four disastrous dating patterns that women fall into.

Let's play a fun challenge and see if we can come up with four corresponding disastrous dating habits in men:

The Recluse - It corresponds to the female hermit, but the male doesn't think he'll be better off alone. No, he desperately wants a mate, but is too painfully shy to go talk to anybody. Basically the only chance he gets for a girlfriend is if a female cat burglar breaks into his apartment.

The Player - The opposite, this is a man with too much confidence, a copy of "The Art of the Pick-Up" in his pocket, and an ego which needs to constantly be fed with fresh women.

The White Knight - Mr. Nice Guy who always ends up in the friendzone. Need we say more?

The Unicorn - A roaring bore who can't shut up about how special and unique he is. So much so that he has to examine each woman with a magnifying glass and find her at fault. It's probably for the best anyway.

Did we get those right or not? Have all the ladies met at least one of each?

The Friend Zone - The How and Why

2010-11-06T19:56:00.002+08:00

You could call it slumming, but we'll link to AskMen today for an example of your typical Avoid the Friend Zone article. Yes, men, in your online and offline dating relationships, the two most dreaded words you'll hear are "friend" and "zone."

Why does this happen? Why why why? Because men seem to feel like it shouldn't be a problem - there's that cursed Michael Bolton song about how can we be lovers if we can't be friends. Thanks Michael. Missing the point as usual. Here, guys, let's try to explain it this way: Here's some celebrities, and we'll rate them as friend vs. lover.

Alan Alda - Friend. He does not exhibit one drop of testosterone.

George Cloony Lover. With that hot tattoo he had in From Dusk til Dawn.

Rob Reiner - Friend. A sweet, lovable, cuddly uncle of a man.

The late Stanley Kubrick - Lover, but only if you're very submissive, because you know he would want it his way only!

Adam Savage (of Mythbusters) - Friend. Your funny, smart, geeky friend. You don't want him in bed, you want him to help with your calculus homework.

Jamie Hyneman (also of Mythbusters) - Lover. Now we're talking, and since male geeks are the biggest set who complain about the friend zone, we'll draw the line of distinction here. Now Jamie has the same brains, skills, and know-how of Adam - but look at that mustache and that hat and that scowl. You know this man can also down a beer, fight off a wolf, and love you like a caveman all at once.

Sean Connery (the one true James Bond) - Lover. Like a god.

Every other James Bond since (George Lazenby, Roger Moore, Timothy Dalton, Pierce Brosnan, Daniel Craig) - Friend. Friend. Friend. Friend. Friend. Lazenby, Moore, and Craig might be good for one-nighters at best. But Lazenby would never amount to anything, Moore would be unbearably smug about it, and Craig you'd just try because he's intriguingly weird.

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Long Distance Relationships Dos and Donts

2010-11-01T19:40:00.000+08:00

We always try to keep an eye out for advice for those maintaining a long-distance relationship. So this article, from the woman's point of view, on the Do's and Don'ts of Long Distance Relationships, is right up our alley - particularly so for the world of online dating.

We'll let the time-worn question of whether long-distance relationships are a good thing or not fall by the wayside this time, and instead ask: "Why do so many people settle for long-distance relationships?"

People get into these, and then ask, "Is it worth it?" Well, for heaven's sake, you found somebody you want to be with, why not? The question you should be asking is "Is whatever keeps us apart worth it?" College? Some 2/3rds of graduates end up in a job they didn't even foresee that doesn't even match their degree. A job? There's work everywhere - maybe one of you can just quit work and stay at home for the other. Family? In the long-run, long-distance relatives beat a long-distance lover. Money? Please; pull a double shift and save up.

From where we can see, the only problem with long-distance relationships is that they need to solve the distance problem first. There's too much texting and too little cuddling in a warm bed going on out there.

Why Don't Brains Help With Relationships?

2010-09-13T12:01:00.002+08:00

This post on dating myths that even intelligent women believe just reminded us that relationships tend to stump the bright and dull alike. What is that? Being smart helps us land good jobs, do well in school, and accomplish all kinds of feats in other fields. When it comes to dating, we're all wearing a dunce cap.

For one thing, there's more than one kind of smart. There's emotional smart, street-smart, artistic smart, and so on. When we talk about intelligence, we usually mean the kind you can measure with an IQ test. That's the logic aspects - math, language, spatial reasoning. Computers, after all, are good at that kind of smart as well. But interpersonal human interaction takes place in a completely different realm.

In fact, we even know about a certain kind of person who is specifically IQ-smart, but people-dumb. That's called "Asperger's Syndrome." Of course, we hate to even bring it up because there's something about that condition that makes everyone self-diagnose as soon as they read about it. (It's rare. Like Lou Gehrig's Disease rare. You don't have it.) It just makes a point that there is a difference between cognitive brains and relationship brains.

For a lighter treatment, we'll toss in 5 Reasons You’re Not Dating Smarter Women. Just in case you were wondering.

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Should You Get A Dating Coach

2010-09-01T14:19:00.000+08:00

A cottage industry is springing up around the web that does make one think hard about whether the solution lies this way. There are dating coaches; like other kinds of life coach, they offer training in how to date. They train you in the finer points of flirting, fashion, communication, self-esteem, evolutionary biology, psychology, dancing, and so on. We'd rather link to the Wiki on this one than any particular date coaching service, for fear of appearing like an endorsement.

But the concept of a dating coach is not that new at all. It goes all the way back to 1897, at least, with the play by Edmond Rostand. Cyrano helps his friend Christian win the heart of Roxane, using his own wit and charming words to be spoken through Christian's handsome face. While in this case, Cyrano is secretly in love with the lady himself and so is not doing it for money, the principle is the same.

It makes sense that life coaches would specialize in this department and there would be a market for them. Who among us hasn't asked another's advice in matters of love? We ordinarily turn to our friends and acquaintances for anything from "Should I wear these shoes?" to "Does he really like me?" A dating coach makes sense in that regard - why not ask an expert?

Yet we can also see where the stigma comes from. There is controversy over this practice, where it's associated with the "speed-seduction" subculture. This isn't necessarily anything like that, though. Done right, it can be a solution for people who are desperately lacking in social skills in an increasingly digital society where nobody has the time to really study people anymore.

How To Lose Your Shyness And Date Already!

2010-08-05T14:56:00.004+08:00

First we stumbled on this article about Why You're Still Single. And then a couple of them got us thinking: specifically #1 and #3. Because they're more relevant to today's generation than ever.

The Internet age has unfortunately produced the electronic shut-in. Blah blah, combination of factors go here, but what we have is a whole generation of people who don't know how to start a conversation. Well, friends, here's a few suggestions to pry yourself out of that wallpaper:

Dance anyway! We hear over and over that "I don't know how to dance." You know why everybody says that? Because nobody knows how! So why don't you invent it? Go to a club where you've never been seen before, don't even talk to anybody, and just dance, dammit! Like there's a gun to your head! Try it three times, and you'll never be uncomfortable again. Now watch others and learn how.

Practice striking up conversations daily. Any trivial thing. In the elevator, waiting for a bus, or standing in line at the check-out, you can just practice at least speaking to strangers. Just make a funny little comment to no one in particular, and whatever the response is, live with it.

Attend local social happenings in your community. This can be a local garden show, a meeting of the neighborhood association, whatever. The idea is not that you're cruising for a date, but that you're just getting socialized.

Volunteer! Work at a soup line or shelter, get involved in your community. You will do good work, you'll have to socialize at least a little bit, and you'll never find anybody less intimidating to talk to than a needy teenager - or another volunteer.

Shop second-hand. Thrift stores, flea markets, and garage sales all have these things in common: they're less formal, more casual, and everybody's chatty. You'll meet some of the most interesting people while you both browse the vinyl records in a box for twenty-five cents in somebody's yard.

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Things To Do For Your Dating Partner That Aren't Sex

2010-04-25T19:10:00.001+08:00

Stumbling upon this eHow write-up on how to give a massage, it brought us to mind of all the nice things you can do for your romantic interest that aren't necessarily sexual. There's a lot of concern over safe-sex in the dating stages of relationships, after all, but what nobody thinks of is the nice, even sensual, things you can do for each other that aren't sex, but still make them feel good.

A few more suggestions to consider:

Speaking of massage, how about a head rub, back rub, or foot massage? These are simple, informal little things you can do, in public or in private. Remember that humans, being a primate, bond through any pleasant physical contact, not just sex or foreplay.

A playful tickle. Perhaps even some playful wrestling, if you and your partner know your strength enough not to hurt each other. Some find this arousing, while others just consider it good childish fun.

Crack your partner's back, or help with their exercises, or other borderline therapeutic aids. You may scoff at this - if so you've never had your back cracked by somebody who knows what they're doing.

Hey, and don't forget a good old-fashioned hug! In fact, we could stand to have a more liberal-hugging society all around. At least some of us would benefit if at least once per day a perfect stranger hugged us.

How to Find a Woman...Or Not

2010-02-03T10:10:00.003+08:00

According to a new book, Loneliness is about to become an endangered species. Gary Morgenstein’s new book on the subject, "How to Find a Woman…Or Not", is a groundbreaking new method for finding true love.

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Good Advice For Men Who Don't Like Mace

2009-11-10T14:10:00.000+08:00

This one post deserves to be saved for future reference, a guy's guide to approaching women in a non-threatening way.

It's such great advice, it's a sure bet that women will want to bookmark it too, to send men who fail to get a clue. Of course, men who fail to get a clue also fail at reading and understanding. We won't invent a way to solve that problem for many generations, yet. Come to think of it, that's the whole problem with the clueless people in general, never mind online dating.

Anyway, as many of you guys out there can attest, it's an uncomfortable situation to happen to be the kind of guy who looks scary. Isn't it? We've observed the kind of man who can walk up to an intersection and you hear all the drivers locking their car doors.

What Your Date's Social Web Use Says About Them

2009-11-09T14:08:00.000+08:00

The 21st century has given us some new metrics to measure prospective partners in online dating. For instance, social websites and services. Once you realize that each of these services has its own unique culture, it becomes immediately apparent that different niches would attract different people over time. To wit:

Yahoo! Groups - Very old school. Expect someone either senior-citizen age, or tragically out of touch with the modern web.

Digg or Reddit - The hive of drones. This is a mixed bag, as these are the two most-frequented social sites, but expect someone age 18-25, very well-informed about the web, very insulated against the rest of the world.

Facebook - Again, everybody and their dog (literally) is on Facebook now, so expect people of all ages and persuasions. But also count on somebody with "nothing to hide", who is very connected to their family and/or co-workers.

Twitter - Chatterbox! At least you know they're a great communicator who's always available. Look out for egos.

MySpace - Look for teenagers and younger. Anybody on MySpace over the age of 21 might have serious developmental issues, unless they're entertainers (singers, artists, etc.) keeping touch with their fans.

4chan - Either you're dealing with lowlifes, or the rare intellectual who finds the brainless silliness amusing. Don't bet on the latter.

Adult FriendFinder - Sexually liberated. However, also look out for people cruising for quick casual sex.

What Your Partner's Film Tastes Says About Them

2009-05-12T10:01:00.000+08:00

Nearly every online dating website has a section of the profile where singles looking for love can say what kind of films they like. Well, that's not just for comparison! Certain genres of films attract certain personalities, and you can tell a thing or two about them from these preferences.

Comedies (Teen)
example: American Pie, Porkys
Teen comedies usually revolve around sex, love, and the frustrations of functioning in the world. Fans of this kind of film feel awkward in life and identify with the protagonist as they fumble through a series of embarrassing mishaps. They have a very broad sense of humor and are very social.

Comedies (Alternative)
example: Monty Python, Clerks
These are the thoughtful, intelligent types. Monty Python and Kevin Smith appeal to the geeks and nerds, and generally a highly educated crowd. Look for analytical and scientific types to flock to these.

Science Fiction
example: Star Trek, A Scanner Darkly
Note that we do not include Star Wars, because that's an action/adventure series. True science fiction draws fans with a strong imagination who like to think. Think of quiet, contemplative people who are very well-read.

Superhero Series
example: Dark Knight, Transformers
Superheros and their uber-villians represent very simple morality plays. Fans of these films like their problems simplified so they can come up with a solid solution. They admire strength and courage, and are given to having a strong character.

Action
example: National Treasure, Star Wars
Similar to superhero films, action films are also a genre that appeal to people who enjoy the simple pleasures in life. But they're more into the action for action's sake. Look for thrill-seekers here, and people who are spontaneous and energetic.

Chick Flicks
example: The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants, Sex in the City
In spite of the name, both men and women who watch these kinds of films are very intelligent about emotions. To them, romance is one of the most important things in life. Look for people here who are empathic, sentimental, and tend towards kindness.

Scary Films and Thrillers
example: Saw, Hellboy
Contrary to what you might expect, the biggest fans of horror films are the kind of people who aren't scared easily. So look for people who are very imaginative here, and also very empathic! Also look for emotionally intense people with a good grasp of issues and who are not easily ruffled.

High Fantasy
example: Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter
Amongst fans of these films, you will find the starry-eyed dreamers for whole life is a wondrous spectacle. Look for people who may be older 'but refuse to grow up' - in a good way! They're spontaneous and creative, and love to be surprised.

Crime/Spy Drama
example: Ocean's Thirteen, The Borne Ultimatum
These films are more about what the characters are thinking than anything else, as the various characters pit their wits against each other. The fun in these films comes from trying to unravel the clues and figure out the puzzle. This crowd loves a mental challenge. Look for high IQs, sedate lifestyles, and a dramatic flair.

3D Animation
example: Shrek, Kung Fu Panda
The high-tech enthusiast is a typical fan of 3D animation. They might even have a career in computer graphics themselves. At the least, you'll find a young, smart, and hip crowd who is likely to have a Blackberry or an iPhone holstered. Also, parents love these kinds of films because their children do.

Anime
example: Fullmetal Alchemist, Deathnote
Now, anime fans are a very unique subset. Anime and manga (printed comics) run together and frequently hover around science fiction, action, and fantasy themes. So blend together the typical fans of those genres, but add in a double dash of creativity and a childish sense of wonder.

Jodie Brittain

From Online to Offline: How to Transition Smoothly

2009-04-29T20:33:00.000+08:00

I see a great, informative post over at Evil Woobie on a subject we don't see covered often, How To Transition From Online Dating to the First Date.

It gives some good advice, and you have to chuckle over the part where you're advised to "...review past chats and take note of the promises that you gave in the past". Heh, we talk a lot when we're flirting and don't remember everything, so we have to keep our story straight, huh? Never truer were the words "an honest person never has to remember anything".

My own little part to add: people should be looser about meeting up for dates. So many online daters agonize for months before finally going out to meet in person. What's everybody so shy about? Don't you strike up conversations with the person next to you on the subway, or talk to people at work? So if you don't expect that every person will be "The One", and just go to have fun and socialize, you'll overcome your shyness and who knows, maybe even click with somebody that you thought wouldn't work out.

My other idea: for those people who don't know how to describe themselves, two of these kind of people can agree to meet for an "evaluation date". The purpose is just to socialize, get to know each other for an hour, then you both agree to go home and write the other person's profile! there, now you have a description of yourself as somebody else sees you. This can be a benefit, because people frequently forget to list their best qualities.

Meh, it's an idea...

Jodie Brittain

Salesmen Need Not Apply in Online Dating

2009-04-15T20:35:00.001+08:00

I was quite amused at this story about a speed-dating event in which one guy showed up and just handed out resumes. Clearly, this guy has trouble transitioning from the online world to the offline. "Well", he must have thought, "You use a profile to land a date online. You use a resume to land a job offline. Why not?"

The "Why not?" is because people don't like to be treated like that. They showed up in person to see you, not read a piece of paper you've handed them. And they probably don't want your business card, either. Furthermore, when you print up resumes for a dating event, what you're really saying is "I can't think outside the office." Which is a shame, because - singles take note - the really interesting things in a relationship happen in the bedroom.

Like I've advised in earlier blog posts, you should also leave behind the phone, laptop, and other gizmos on a date, even a speed-date. There's a difference between being being tech-savvy and tech-dependent. When you can't be pried away from your gadget, you're telling your date that they will never have your undivided attention. A woman can look like Carmen Electra, be dressed like Leelu in the Fifth Element and be doing Chinese-acrobat cartwheels on her way to engaging in some carnal act with you from the back pages of the Kama Sutra, and you'd be all "Yeah, uh-huh, very nice, hon. Oh my God! My stock went up half a point!"

Jodie Brittain

Now How to Avoid Being "Just Friends"?

2009-02-26T23:51:00.008+09:00

There's a lot to love in this list of six signs you’ve fallen into the “friend zone”, but while we're at it, why not try to find the point where we made the mistake to end up here, and then see what we could do differently? Follow along with the list, guys:

When your date mentions that she is seeing someone else: your mistake was in not making it clear that you thought of the two of you as being "serious"! In any case, when it gets this far, move to the dump stage. Try to end it gracefully.

Your date brings up sex, when you havn't had sex yet: When this happens, you have about five seconds to wiggle out of your clothes and jump her bones. This is the very last subtle hint that she's ready for sex right now, and if you don't make it happen right now, you're dead from the waist down in her book.
She lets you see her sweaty/dirty, etc.: That's it, relationship's over. You didn't make your move soon enough.
Saying "gee, thanks": She's not impressed! She's telling you to sweep her off her feet and rock her world, and you're being her timid little polite bellhop. You've got five seconds to Hulk out, or get lost.
The "buddy" or "brother" title: Your bad. If you act like a buddy or a brother to a woman, she will think of you that way! You should have already made it clear that you're not looking for a sister.
She tells you she's not interested: Well, then, the time has come to move on. At least you didn't mess up the above five items so badly that she couldn't even tell that that's what you're looking for. Try to end it gracefully.

Jodie Brittain

You'll Get Her Attention Alright...

2009-02-26T23:46:00.004+09:00

While we like the idea expressed by Official Dating Resource's suggestion to compose a funny and cocky subject line that will stand out like a beacon in a woman's in-box, we kind of don't like the tactic presented.

That challenge mentality only works on some kinds of women. But there's lots of other tricks that you can use to break the ho-hum monotony of reading online dating replies:

The Seinfeld subject. A complete non-sequitur like "How do you get egg yolk stains out of a shag rug?" or "By any chance, do you work for a bathtub grouting company?"
The Third-Party gambit. "Could you help me figure out this other woman's profile? I think I like her but I'm not sure."
There's something on your face! Or, the online version, "You misspelled 'platonic'." "Can I help you correct the red-eye in your photo?" or "Why does your email point to 'collegecamgirls.com'?"
Start a debate. "Your profile had me right up until you advocated for global warming research." or "Why in God's name do you like Michael Crichton novels?"
Or make it a True Daily Double: "I bet you can't seduce me in 24 hours!"

Jodie Brittain
Slinky Dating Australia

Wacky Niche Dating: Libertarians

2009-02-13T21:33:00.003+09:00

File this under "Please, do not help these people reproduce". New York magazine had a look at a dating site that specializes in hooking up libertarians and posted some excerpted craziness. How do you recognize a libertarian, especially one from the U.S.? It's really simple, because their whole lives could barely fill a thimble:

Love Ron Paul, the US Senator from the loony bin. Also known as "Wrong Paul".
Love Ayn Rand. Ayn Rand was the other failing author who saved her career by founding her own cult. The first was L. Ron Hubbard.
Consider comic books to be literature, but only if written by certified Unibomber-style wacko Alan Moore. Alan Moore, Ayn Rand, and Ron Paul is their whole bookshelf.
Wear this mask. Everywhere, even to bed! It's from an Alan Moore comic, of course.
Suckers for everything. They never met a pyramid scheme they didn't like. Chances are they just want to date you so they can sign you up selling NORFED dollars or FOREX trading packages.

There isn't much chance that you'd accidentally breed with one anyway, because these people are obnoxious to be around. Will not shut up about conspiracy theories, political beliefs, activism, and whatever goofy idea their cult has into its collective head this week. However, if you want a dating experience straight out of Taxi Driver, knock yourself out!

Jodie Brittain
Online Dating Australia

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Seven Dangerous Dating Beliefs That Kill Your Chances

2009-01-06T01:03:00.004+09:00

Dating, whether online or offline, is a game where the winner is always the one who keeps the most positive mental attitude. In no other aspect of life do we find so many self-defeating illusions that people have. We hear them every day, and they're often used to justify why people don't even try. Here's the most common we've heard:

#1. You have to put out.

Sure, sex is expected at some point. But when? Not everybody - and we insist that this apply to guys, too - thinks with their pants. We've seen it lately happen the other way around from the traditional stereotype, where now men complain that women pressure them for sex, almost as often as women complaining about the men. It's just as wrong from either side; many of us, even if we have a high libido, would like to at least have some standard and be sure that the person meets our criteria before just hopping into bed. But what's more disconcerting is when people just do it because they think that's expected of them.

#2. Traditional sexual roles.

This is a big one, because many women back down from flirting and initiating contact because they will be seen as too pushy. The fact is, the 21st century has seen a great equalization; it's now the accepted norm for anybody to ask anybody else out. And ladies, the younger blokes don't mind at least some encouragement.

#3. You have to agree on everything.

Try this some time: Find somebody who is as close to being your twin as possible. Spend some time with them. Yes, you agree a lot, and what happens to the dialog? It dies out. Have you tried dating an opposite? It's intriguing, it's challenging, it keeps your interest. This doesn't mean you should argue with your date about everything. But learn to respectfully disagree, and yet still love somebody who thinks differently from how you do.

#4. It's all about the looks.

The Internet has served to perpetuate this one, unfortunately. Good looks are important, sure, but they're not the be-all and end-all. The kinds of people who only take looks into consideration quickly learn that looking good and making a good living companion are two different things. Then we all founder, because our society places so much importance on how you look and very little on how to improve your mind, be polite, agreeable company, or develop strong character.

#5. Men have to be rich.

When was the last time we even saw a traditional-role family where the man is the breadwinner and the women stays home to do housework? Not very often. The norm for most couples is to have a two-career household, and even then one partner may work while the other goes to school and improves their career later. men, there's nothing wrong with being a househusband for a working woman. In fact, it can be a pretty fun life!

#6. Smart women are intimidating.

How sad that this idea even exists. It chases valuable talent away from the sciences, where women could have given us some brilliant minds which might have cured AIDS, ended world hunger, or discovered the next energy source. It also ensures that men end up with decorative fashion models with flat personalities and no mental stimulation. The great majority of men in surveys have indicated that they place importance on intelligence and personality traits, as well as looks. So go ahead, gals, show off some smarts!

#7. Geeks aren't popular.

This old hold-over idea from a century ago needs to be thrown out. Look at the Forbes' list of top 100 world billionaires, and look how many of them are CEOs of tech companies. Look at how technology is present in every aspect of our lives. The time of the 'geek' being seen as undesirable is long-gone. Both male and female geeks are seeing their stock rise.

Jodie Brittain

Oh, What the Heck. Break Up By Text Message

2008-12-18T13:26:00.004+09:00

What's the point of blogging if you aren't going to shake things up every now and then? So we're going to have to disagree with this MSN News story's claim that breaking up by SMS is a bad thing. Yes, it's cheesy and tacky. Get used to it, because that's us.

See, Internet communication is the standard and it's never going away. When they invented the phone, for a while everybody was saying that you don't use the phone for "formal" communication matters, but notify by post or telegram instead. When telegrams came out, they were to be used for trivial communications and everything else should be post. And so on and so on.

Bah! People are using SMS to do everything from propose to dump to announce pregnancy. It's going to happen anyway. We may not like it, but the times are changing. To hold any other position would be akin to being a Luddite.

Jodie Brittain
Online Dating Australia

When Your Children Date

2008-12-18T13:22:00.003+09:00

Oh, is that ever a chilling headline for the parent of teenagers! Well, fear not, for author Lisa Jander has written a book called "Dater's Ed: The Instruction Manual for Parents". It's based on the idea of "Driver's Ed" from high school. Yes, teens will groan and roll their eyes as parents the world over read out loud from this manual and give tests.

For the teens and young singles, parents owe you an explanation. Because you're wondering "What gives with mom and dad? Why are they so uptight? Did they expect me to be a nun?" Well, it's natural to feel defensive about your kids. It's less about micro-managing who you love and why - than it is about putting you on safety watch so your folks don't have to lie awake at night with pictures of psychos and stalkers go through their heads.

That being said, any parent should acknowledge that they're going to be wrong about who their children date at least 25% of the time. How could you possibly not get it wrong? You're a parent!

Jodie Brittain

English Language Found Dead; Craigslist Wanted for Questioning

2008-12-16T13:12:00.003+09:00

If you want to use the Craigslist site for looking for love, don't let us stop you. Just be aware that the site, through no fault of its own, tends to draw the lowest common denominator. This hilarious article goes into the many flakes, posers, and just plain brainless minions who post on Craigslist just because they can.

The best is the third point, "Mediocrity in the first degree.". We'd like to see more people loosen up when they write a profile. Make fun of yourself. Make fun of dating. Make fun of the person reading. After browsing 1000 profiles before getting to yours, think how much attention you'll get if you are the one who throws every idea about online dating out the window and posts something daring and original.

Jodie Brittain

Five Ways to Test Your Compatibility on a Date

2008-12-10T00:41:00.003+09:00

We don't advocate your trying these kinds of things on a first date. The first time, you'll be too nervous and awkward around each other to get much mileage out of these. What these are, are ideas for the third date and up - when you're through assessing whether they're someone you'd want to spend more time with and now it's just a question of seeing if you're right for each other.

#1. Go for a little trip together. This can be as simple as driving across the city, or perhaps taking a chartered boat across the harbor. Traveling, just the two of you, you get to see how your date handles functional activities instead of recreational ones. Driving, especially, is an easy one to read. If your date drives, do they impatiently race, or are they happy to go with the flow of traffic? When they park, do they pick the first open space or do they circle the lot three times looking for the closest possible space? If you drive, is your date comfortable with you in control? If it's a trip, is your date anxious and fidgety, not knowing what to do with themselves?

#2. Take a walk in the park. This is kind of a way to get the two of you away from distractions. Without food, drinks, music, or activities, you'll have nothing to do but just chat with each other. If you both feel awkward, this might be a sign that you're not cut out for each other. If you settle down beneath a tree and spend hours just enjoying each other's company, that's an excellent sign!

#3. Run some errands with your date. The third date or so is probably the time you can be excused to have a few events in everyday life intrude on your leisure life, anyway. So before you get the date-proper underway, just explain that you have to do one quick thing forst and offer to take them along. Nothing complicated! Pick up the dry cleaning, grab a couple of things at the market, or maybe you promised to feed the neighbor's pet while they're out... don't make it something that takes longer than 20 minutes. Is your date sporting enough that they'll want to come along? Do they act put off that they aren't the priority for even this minute? Do they 'team up' and help you?

#4. Play a game. Any social sport will do - a billiards round, a game of darts, miniature golf, ping pong, skee-ball, bocce, or bowling. You can even offer to compete for a round on your Wii! The point of this is to see how your date performs under competitive circumstances. Are they so driven that they must win at all costs? Are they sore losers? Insufferable winners? Remember that the way they play a competitive game is the exact same way they'll act in an argument. If your date is rooting for you to win and offers pointers on how to improve the game, even if you beat them, that's a great sign!

#5. Spend a full day together. This is a much more involving version of the two-hour date. Perhaps you can go to a resort, spend a day at the beach, or even go shopping together. Anything that will involve at least two meals during the length of time. This shows how your date hangs in there for the long haul. Watch for how they interact with other people: are they polite and courteous with waitresses and sales clerks? Do they get cranky if they get hungry? Do they get tired easily? Do you work well together as a team?

Jodie Brittain

And While You're At It...

2008-12-06T00:57:00.004+09:00

In this excellent article The 5 Dates All “Nice Guys” Should Go On, men who are too "nice" are given a sound spanking and put in a corner, before getting some new instructions on how to break themselves of the "nice guy" habit and become a man who gets women.

We love that, and to go with this list, we'd like to recommend five women all "nice guys" should date. Because after these sharp-taloned harpies are done with you, your shining armor will be rusted right off. Go get 'em, Galahad!

A spoiled "princess". This is just the woman who will appreciate having a neutered cow around for a pet boyfriend. Thrill to her demands, her whining, her suspicion, her manipulation! She will demand an endless stream of expensive gifts and still not be appeased at all.
A supermodel. Just go hang out at a studio and pick you up some arm candy. Now try to keep up with somebody who is too busy to go out, too rich to expect anything but the best, and never in a good mood because she's starving to death.
A heroin addict. Really, any hard drug will do. Spend some time partying with a woman who will leave stains on your soul, as she uses you for a place to crash, harasses you constantly for money for her next fix, and surprises you at work on Monday at 10 AM by calling you from jail.
A heavy career woman. We're talking the bossy power-suit type. A Harvard-graduated business lawyer who's ten years older than you is ideal. She'll "wear the pants" and expect you to keep her house and be there every day for her to come home and use as a doormat.
A psycho. Just take a clue from the film "Fight Club" and hang out at support groups for emotional wrecks, until you find your "Marla". You'll learn new definitions for excitement as she stalks you, gets you fired, embroils you in her latest conspiracy theory, and of course puts you through the whole almost-committing-suicide drama.

The Importance of Being Assertive

2008-12-02T00:52:00.003+09:00

We loved this little slice-of-dating-life story over at the Sun-Herald, because it sets up the Aesop for an important point: When it's not working, step on it and go on to something else as fast as possible.

Her adventures relate her disappointment with a boyfriend who had the emotional substance of jello. And after 27 years absence from the dating pool, that last thing you want is someone who's going to waste your time. As a souvenir of her experience, she had a shirt printed up which says "I wait for no man!"

You go, Elaine! Pick up that self-esteem and go find somebody who regards you as a treasure to be cherished. To anybody else in Elaine's position, we recommend a new way to see yourself: as a god or goddess for one week. Demand presents, peace offerings, prayers, sacrifices, and be sure to pull the occasional miracle out of your hat to keep your minions trembling with respect.

Jodie Brittain
Slinky - The Free Dating Site

Too Busy to Look for Love?

2008-11-24T16:00:00.001+09:00

This story in the Houston Chronicle tells a story that will be very familiar to us. It's the same old problem of finding a balance between profession life and personal life, applied to singles who find themselves too busy to date. Or as this YouTube song "Addicted to Stress" puts it, "I love to spend a little time with this woman that I'm seeing, except we never really get a little time to spend together, so we call each other up and we talk about work."

That's why the motto of Slinky Dating is "Live Life, Love Life". When you're "too busy" to find time to socialize, you're not loving life. What you're doing is chaining yourself to the treadmill to get ahead, but you never get the time to enjoy the rewards of your hard work. It's going to be even tougher to find that balance when there's a global recession going on, so let's all try to make it our mantra next year: "I will find the time for me, and for the ones I love."

Jodie Brittain
Slinky.com.au

Budget Date Ideas

2008-11-12T10:22:00.002+09:00

Well, with all the news lately of global economic problems, you don't need us to tell you that some people are strapped for cash.

Even when the economic forecast is sunny, young people in their dating years and students especially need some pointers on how to date inexpensively without seeming cheap. So we won't suggest you make every date a budget date, but even throwing one of these every third time or so will make a difference - and for once you'll have a different idea besides "dinner and a film"!

1. Have a 'pet date'.
Have a dog? Does your friend have a dog? Great, let's find a park where they can both romp around and frisk together, while you two can spend some time together. It almost suggests itself.

2. An ecology outing.
Everybody talks about long walks on the beach, but what about a visit to a forest, National Park, historic site, or ancient abandoned city? Some local tours in your area might prove inexpensive, and other outdoor sports such as rafting, hiking, mountain climbing, or trail biking usually have groups and tours that get together for outings. Aside from the equipment, these are cheap to attend, and even the equipment for most things isn't that far out.

3. Visit a museum.
Your local museum misses you. Museums are inexpensive and never crowded. You get to leisurely stroll through, setting your own pace. You get to impress your date with your thoughts on Rodin and Renoir. And every large city has a science exhibit, which is great fun because they're interactive. Zoos are another economical choice.

Jodie Brittain

More Budget Date Ideas

2008-11-10T15:27:00.000+09:00

OK here are some more budget date ideas;

4. Go gambling.
Whoa! Gambling is not cheap, is it? Well, in any area where gambling is legal, there'll usually be a few locations catering to the "low-rollers". Penny and nickel slots, dollar bets on craps tables, video keno, horse racing and such. The benefit here is that you get to control how much you spend. Exercise restraint, and at the worst you'll have fun for a few hours and at best you'll win a jackpot.

5. Attend a convention.
Any hobby or interest which you share with your partner may be an opportunity to attend a convention geared towards it. Science fiction conventions, car shows, career fairs, electronics shows, Renaissance Faires, and all matter of organized outings are both economical and a fresh change of pace. Remember it's only as fun as you make it! Agree ahead of time that if it's a bust, you can leave early.

6. Take your date to work.
This only applies if you have a job or position where you can (a) be allowed to have social companions, and (b) they won't interfere with the job. Freelancers, professionals, any job that involves driving, and any work that gives you your own private office space is ideal. Don't invite your date to watch you work the cash register at McDonald's, but if you drive a truck cross-country, by all means bring your sweetie!

7. Attend a LAN party.
This goes for hard-core computer gamers only, which is more and more of both men and women these days. Most of these events are a small fee and "bring your own laptop". Not rollicking fun for a date, but something different - and you can always check into a room later.

Jodie Brittain

Post A Winning Photo To Your Online Dating Profile

2008-11-02T10:24:00.003+09:00

The age of digital cameras is upon us, and with it comes what we've come to call a "proficiency illusion". That is, when a technology becomes cheap and widely available, everybody thinks that there must be nothing to it. Witness the digital art all over the web that sprung up overnight as soon as graphics editing software hit the market. Ugh.

Taking a portrait of a person is an art. It is rapidly becoming one that is unfortunately forgotten.

We'll come out and say it right here: if we never see a photo that somebody took of themselves in the bathroom mirror again, it will be too soon. These pictures are everywhere: sloppy clothes, awkwardly holding the camera, and worst of all, a streaky, dingy mirror and a background which tells the world that the subject of the photo is a huge slob.

In addition to that, the photo shows that they're someone with no imagination, else they'd be taking it in a full-length bedroom mirror, and no friends, else they'd be able to have someone else take the picture.

Here's some more ways that people fail their dating photo:

In an office:
The problem with offices is that they all have fluorescent lighting. Fluorescent light is a hard, harsh, cold light that makes everyone look terrible. It saps the color from your skin, making you look like a coldblooded zombie. It etches every wrinkle into your face, making you look ten years older.

In a bar or pub:
The problem with a bar or pub is that it's too dark. Even flash photography will only illuminate so much. Bars also don't look that great, decoratively speaking. The people in a bar don't always look their best, and might be in the mood to moon the camera over your shoulder. Finally, do you really want an image of you after a few beers or jello shots preserved forever?

Jodie Brittain
Online Dating

Most On How To Post A Winning Photo To Your Online Dating Profile

2008-10-30T15:36:00.001+09:00

Tips for your dating profile continued...

Not dressed up:
Surely, you own something besides a dirty, torn T-shirt and a pair of raggy jeans? Even the most dedicated grunge-hound teen has at least one outfit they can wear to, say, a job interview. Being poor is no handicap in online dating. Not having a job isn't one, either. Not having the motivation to at least drag yourself to the thrift store for one set of dress pants and a jacket, however, is.

Flashing gang signs:
We know the difference between hip-hop and gang culture. You should, too. You're online looking for a date, not for a posse to help you hold up the corner store.

Up-close body parts:
Male or female, we appreciate that you're a swinging exhibitionist and you've just got to be free. At least save the detail for the second picture, if requested. The thing about taking a picture of just one part of you is that you're saying to the world "The rest of me has no value; this is the only part worth showing." Men, if you only knew how many women complain about this. Save your little buddy for after she gets to know the rest of you first.

In a costume:
Dressing up for Halloween and other fun occasions is a great time to get your picture taken. You can save that for the second picture, however. It's hard to tell what you really look like in a costume. If you think this goes without saying, you haven't browsed enough online dating profiles.

Now that we've gotten some "don't" out of the way, here's how you take a good photo for your online dating profile:

Have someone else take it.
Use warm, full light, from the front side mostly. Natural daylight is ideal. Use a neutral background - at home in the living room is fine, but make sure there isn't a lot of noisy distraction behind you in any case. Wear your best outfit and be well-groomed. Smile! Smiling is important in dating. Try to chose an outfit that expresses your personality, if that's possible. See your photo as a composition: think about the effect you want to create.

Some other ideas:
Posing with a pet or favorite hobby is fine, and gives people an idea of your interests. Posing with friends is fine, as long as you are the center of and subject of the picture, and then you have to explain which one is you.

Posing at the beach or the park is great, shows that you like to have leisurely fun, and both the ocean and green grass and trees make for an excellent background. Posing at work is cool only if you have a prestigious job. Work uniforms are great if you're talking fireman or air force, not so great if you're talking Woolworths.

Jodie Brittain
Free Online Dating

The reason singles leave online dating sites

2008-10-24T15:15:00.007+08:00

We have a short survey for members when they suspend their online dating accounts at slinky.com.au

Before they suspend their memberships they are asked why they are leaving us. I have included the results from the last 12 months for you to see.

Account Suspend Statistics

25.37% - - 1. I have found a partner here
21.83% - - 2. I have found a partner at another dating site
17.99% - - 3. I have found a partner somewhere else
03.17% - - 4. I just joined for a look around - I've got a partner
15.35% - - 5. I just joined for a look - but changed my mind
01.27% - - 6. I just joined for a look - but I want a sex site
01.20% - - 7. The site was too slow
01.41% - - 8. I was sent too much system mail
04.77% - - 9. The matches didn't suit me
02.47% - - 10. Not enough members in my area

Hope you find it interesting.

Have fun dating.

Jodie Brittain

Online Dating Tips You Just Cannot Ignore

2008-09-05T12:11:00.002+08:00

When you opt for the modern, high tech method of online dating, to find “the one”, you’re sure to have great fun. But, the important thing is to get it right the first time or you’ll land up
hanging online and not get into a real relationship at all. What you need is a little assistance. So, whether you’re new to the dating scene or a regular, check out the tips or advice that online
dating websites have to offer.

Be sure that there is no magic formula neither for love nor are there any tricks of the trade to trap “the perfect one”. Neither is it just about good looks. Even good- looking people struggle,
when it comes to matters of the heart. There are simply a few essential facts to bear in mind, while dating that will help you go a long way.

Firstly get prepared. If you want to succeed, prepare a catchy, but honest profile of yourself specifying clearly, what you’re looking for. Be ready to play the game. Don’t play around with
people’s emotions or you could have serious consequences. There may also be let downs at times. Don’t feel disheartened or give up. Get back and keep looking. As much as you’re looking for someone smart and healthy, so is your reader. So make sure you’re in good shape too. Eat healthy, exercise, groom yourself and dress well. Pamper yourself with a little trendy shopping or even get a whole new look. Not only will this help you find a date, but you will also feel confident and happy with yourself.

Jodie Brittain

More Online Dating Tips

2008-09-04T12:13:00.000+08:00

Be clear of your dating goals and timescales. Are you looking for a friend, or wish to have a casual affair or a lasting relationship? If you plan to settle down soon, then how long do you
need? If you’re only looking to have fun, examine yourself and your goals. Or is it only sex you’re interested in. Whatever your intentions, be honest and direct. Do not mislead your reader.

Be realistic. I mean no one can be absolutely ‘perfect’. We all have our flaws and so do you. So don’t aim too high. Neither do you have to settle for the second best. What’s important is
that you find that someone, who is compatible with you and worth getting into a relationship with.

Dating is an ongoing process. So don’t lose heart, if it’s not working so well or is taking longer than you expected. Be patient and keep looking. When you finally do find that Mr./ Ms. Right,
you’ll find it was worth the wait.

Don’t make it a task. Dating is all about socializing and having fun. So enjoy yourself. Be humorous; interact with as many people as you can. It’s not only about finding a lover or partner.

You can meet a lot of wonderful people out there and make lot of good friends.

Finally, don’t make yourself too available. Allow for some mystery and excitement to happen. The longer you take to know a person; chances are the relationship will blossom into a
stronger and deeper love rather than a quick hello and goodbye.

Remember, online dating is meant to create an online chemistry that will lead to face-to-face romance. It’s not a way of passing your time or entertaining yourself. People expect you to be
serious, so work at it and you will be lucky.

Jodie Brittain

Is Online Dating For Desperate Singles

2008-09-03T13:00:00.001+08:00

Desperate singles are those, who are hungry for love in their lives and try to seek love, wherever and however possible.

The feeling of loneliness and desperation arises due to the fear of being lonesome or watching their peers having a relationship with someone or successfully dating online.

Many people get desperate because they can't seem to find a suitable partner.

They can misinterpret this as their inability or failure. Such folks need to do something to boost
their love life.

Research studies say that many single women begin to feel frantic.

They feel it is tougher to facing society and feel the need for a man and children to complete their lives.

Such women often make hasty choices and end up with bad company or pick up the wrong life partner.

Jodie Brittain

Is Online Dating For Desperate Singles Part 2

2008-09-02T13:05:00.002+08:00

It is a myth that online dating is just for desperate singles and people who are not serious or very good-looking.

Online dating is for everyone, who wants a friend or love of a person to lean on and share their lives with whom they can date and live happily in love.

Since online dating has no barriers like age, gender, community, etc. it can have a scope for anyone. The myth, that online dating is for desperate singles is not completely wrong, but could be reframed as ‘online dating is for desperate singles as well, because there are quite a number of singles, who seek desperately to date online’. Lets put it like this that there is one segment of people, who would desperately like to date online.

If you are single and desperate too and don’t know, what not to do in your isolation, then here are a few things that would make you aware that you are desperate and would guide you on what you are not supposed to do while online dating and that is not:

• Giving false information about your marital or relationship status
• Exchanging fake photographs as your identity
• Talking about sex on the first day of dating
• Quoting statements like,” I’ll love you forever” or “ I miss you on the first day of dating”
• Interacting with more than one person at the same time, in order to choose the best and saying same things to all of them
• Interacting only with opposite gender, who are interested in you
• Pestering person to meet offline, if closely located
• Talking vulgar and bragging about getting physical with several others
• Continues mailing and sending offline messages to a person
• Waiting for a person eagerly everyday online.
• Asking a person out (proposing) without knowing the person too well

Try to keep your eagerness or anxiety on a low profile, in order to fetch attention and not love, rather than getting tagged as a “despo” and eventually getting rejected. Even if you look good
and have a very dazzling profile, but act desperate, then there are lots of chances of getting discarded by people you like to approach.

Jodie Brittain

Is Online Dating All About Sex

2008-08-10T12:55:00.002+08:00

Well this is a subject I like to talk about and quite freely too, yes I’m pretty much in love, rather obsessed with this topic of discussion. My girlfriends actually always come to me for talks.
Let’s see now, talking in a more practical sense, human beings are there for procreation whether you like it or not. That’s exactly what we’re meant for. But this sounds a bit more than obvious now, doesn’t it? So let’s not talk about the whole birds and the bees and get straight to the point, the BIG question as some of you might like to call it , is online dating all about sex?

Well, the answer to that question is weighed someone around no for the most part. Confused? We are definitely not saying that online dating doesn’t lead to sex, all we’re saying is that it doesn't always happen.
The simplicity of online dating itself makes sex on first dates all the more possible. I mean, you get to know a woman online by going reading her profile (not to mention her photos and fantasize about your future date), e-mail her and even chat with her if possible.
Then after a month or so, you come to a stage where you start exchanging numbers, have those midnight conversations and then of course, you simply cannot wait meet her anymore. You reach the peak wherein you have to see her in person. This is where the online dating ends and the actual dating begins which can lead to anything you both desire.....

Jodie Brittain

Online Dating And Sex

2008-08-09T12:58:00.001+08:00

Things tend to get a little confusing from this part because you know everything about this woman and then when it comes to the big day, you are simply left talking about her, admiring her gorgeous looks and what else? Exactly, then the topic shifts towards something intimate, sometimes, ending up with a night of sex. There is a straight explanation to the sex part though.
Okay, don’t you guys worry, I am not put in some slides and videos to explain how the birds and bees work their way and all, but the simple reason is being comfortable.

The thing about online dating is that it gives you an opportunity to get acquainted with someone on a very personal level. However, one thing that you have to understand is that online
dating is not all about sex. The main objective of online dating is simply to get singles together in an online community so that they can exchange acquaintances. Online dating is something
reputable, something that is a bit more social and not to forget, a fun way to meet new people. Online dating sites actually offer us an opportunity in finding true love or sometimes even the
closest thing that a computer can give us.

Seriously, why would anyone want to lead a boring life when a life of adventure awaits in the form of online dating. There is someone for everyone in the online dating world and you
shouldn’t be left far behind. I say that give online dating a try, who knows, your true love may be just a few clicks away.

Jodie Brittain

Actual Dating And Online Dating

2008-08-03T12:15:00.002+08:00

Is actual dating better than online dating?

Is online dating better than actual dating?

Why to date online, when eventually you have to meet the person in a real life situation? Confused?

There are a lot of people, who have their theories for actual versus online dating.

Some feel online dating is better some feel the opposite.

Let us discuss both these dating options and assess both.

In actual dating, you can see the person face to face and know what he or she looks like, their dressing style and whether he or she is presentable or not etc.

Also with face to face dating, while you cannot know the likes and dislikes of a person before meeting them - you can be sure that the person actually exists - unlike online dating.

When you actually date, it is much harder to fake your identity.

Online dating on the other hand, is rife with people faking their gender, looks, location and many other things.

Continued next post.

Jodie Brittain

Actual Dating And Online Dating 2

2008-08-02T12:17:00.001+08:00

Online dating if done correctly can be very safe, whereas actual dating to an extent can be risky.

It is always advised to date in public places.

In actual dating, you can know about the person reasonably quickly once you meet face to face. If you are not careful you can waste a lot of time and emotion with online dating only to realize that person was not right for you.

You get a large selection when you date online, but only have a very vague description about each profile at the end of the day.

When you actually date, you can get to know one person thoroughly.

Online dating can be a relatively slow process, whereas actual dating is a fast process and you know quickly the physical appearances and feelings of a person.

Actual dating can be beneficial to people, who consider looks and presentation as their priority, while online dating is beneficial to those, who want to learn and know more about the person.

Online dating is also great for those who are shy as it is much easier to break the ice, via email and instant chat than face to face for some people.

Jodie Brittain

Actual Dating And Online Dating 3

2008-08-01T12:19:00.002+08:00

Giving gifts and surprises on dates is a great way to move forward with a prospective partner, but the maximum you could do, while you date online is to express a few lines in an email that will impress the otehr person.

While online dating, a wide range of people can interact at the same time, but this can give rise to multiple flirting.

People who date online, consider actual dating as a traditional dating pattern. Some don’t have the time to meet people and they choose to date people online, to get to know them slowly, while continuing on with their busy schedule. When they are ready they can meet them personally.

Actual dating may seem outdated sometimes in our modern society, but it ultimately has to take place sometime as you can't remain in cyber space if you want to form a close bond with anyone.

Jodie Brittain

What do the Australian Single Women want from their men?

2008-07-18T13:49:00.001+08:00

The Australian lifestyle is a fast paced one. What with all the busy, working men and women out there, there isn’t much time left for leisure and socializing. But, things have changed over the past few years. More and more Australian single men and women have turned to online dating to find the partner of their choice.

There are lots of Australian online dating sites and services that offer dating personals for Aussies. However, there are still a large number of people out there who maintain that online dating is for the desperate people and the perverts.

Despite all of the resistance that it met with in the beginning, online dating has definitely emerged the winner, especially in countries like Australia, Canada, US, New Zealand and Britain.
Jodie

What do the Australian Single Women want from their men - Part 2

2008-07-17T10:24:00.001+08:00

Not only does only dating allow people to meet other individuals and groups over the Internet for socializing purposes, but it also makes for a good foundation to base your relationship on. From building romantic relationships to pursuing strong companionships, online dating has it all!
So, if you are a single Aussie male and you’re looking to find love over the Internet but aren’t quite sure how to go about doing this, then there are a couple of questions you’ve got to ask yourself – the most important being ‘What do Australian single women want from their men?’ if you don’t know what a woman wants from you, then the chances of you ‘hooking up with someone great’ are slimmer.

Here are a few characteristics that most Aussie women tend to look for in their men:

• Behaviour – Most women observe the way a man would approach her, the way he speaks and his overall mannerisms. Most women find good manners in a man a lot more attractive than his basic appearance. So, if you happen to be one of those ‘tall, dark and handsome’ guys, then you should probably work on your behaviour too and not rely entirely on your looks.

• Sense of Humour – Humour has always been one of the most appealing characteristics that a man could possess. Women all over the world have confessed to loving a guy who can make them laugh over someone who is extremely sensitive. A great sense of humour is a sign of wit and intelligence, which can be very appealing.

Jodie Brittain

What do the Australian Single Women want from their men - Part 3

2008-07-16T10:28:00.001+08:00

More characteristics that most Aussie women tend to look for in their men:

• Honest – Aussie women tend to go for the ‘real guys’, the ones who are loving and friendly, honest and straightforward. So, if you possess any of these qualities, or all of them, then you stand a good chance of finding the Aussie woman of your dreams.

• Charming – Aussie women love men who display raw charm, an animal magnetism or even a macho attitude. A charming man is an asset and most single women find such men absolutely irresistible.

• A good conversationalist – An articulate conversationalist will never fail to impress all those single women out there. No one really likes to be with a dull and boring person, so a man who is a smooth talker will surely attract a lot more attention.

You don’t have to look like a film star and you don’t have to be as rich as an oil tycoon, but with a little guidance and following these tips, you should probably score well on the online dating chart. How you make your woman feel counts more in Australia, so be creative and adventurous and you’re bound to come across someone who’s as out going and fun-loving as you are.

Jodie Brittain

Is Online Dating Really Worth It

2008-07-10T13:08:00.001+08:00

Seriously, after all this you really wanna know whether it’s really worth it? Wow! Okay enough of the sarcasms, but seriously, why even ask if something like this worth it if you know that
actual dating is simply not working for you. Alright, once you’ve admitted that you’ve given up on actual dating, there is no other way but either for you to be a momma’s boy and get
married to a far off cousin or resort to online dating. Unless you’re someone like a hillbilly, I’m sure that marrying one of your cousins is just retarded, so online dating it is then.

There is no matter of a doubt that dating is simply popular, it was then and it sure as hell is now, even more so to speak. This is where the online dating scene comes into picture. Online
dating is nothing but a portal for singles where they can meet someone who shares their interests and looking forward to start a new relationship. So when it comes to online dating, you
have to be crystal clear about the kind of person that you’re looking for. This has to be given in detail in your profile where you even have to describe yourself detailing your hobbies,
profession, etc.

Jodie Brittain

Is Online Dating Really Worth It part 2

2008-07-09T13:10:00.001+08:00

The photograph that you provide along with your profile has a huge role to play because one thing tat you have to remember is that looks do play an important part with respect to online
dating. However, this doesn’t mean that if you look average, you won’t get an opportunity to score with a pretty woman. The matching is solely done based upon the details that you have
filled in in your profile. One word of advice that you can give you is make sure that your profile is something really eye catching (in a good way of course) and your chances on meeting that
special someone will be really high.

There are many online dating sites you can come across will a simple click of a button. Some of the popular ones would include names like eHarmony, rsvp, slinky, etc. Many of these sites also offer dedicated chat rooms so that their members can chat with each other, get to know each other better. When you do find your perfect match, you could chat with her in a private chat room and make plans to make up or something like that.

Jodie Brittain

Is Online Dating Really Worth It part 3

2008-07-08T13:13:00.000+08:00

The best part about online dating is that you no longer have to go through those awkward moments waiting for a guy or a girl to look at you at bars and pubs. Gosh, haven’t we been through enough during our prom night? I mean c’mon, online dating offers you something that real life never does and that is an opportunity to meet someone after you get to know her and the best part is that there are no boundaries when it comes to online dating because you can make and maintain some really good relations from singles from other countries.

Risks always have to be taken in consideration and you have to read the terms and conditions provided by the online dating website and all such precautions are brought about due to the
number of creeps lurking around online with not so good intentions.

Jodie Brittain

A good Profile Photo can take you a long way in the World of Online Dating

2008-06-16T16:51:00.005+08:00

Having a good profile photo is as good as having a good tagline or catch phrase in the world of online dating. Now if you’re wondering how so, then here are a couple of reasons why your profile photo needs to be exceptionally good. Remember, first impressions always count, and in online dating, your profile photo counts as the first impression. The first visual insight into you as a person is always your photo.

Since there are millions and millions of profiles out there, you have to think of a way to make your profile stand out from the rest. Let’s say you’ve tried out all the possible traditional methods of dating and nothing has worked out for you, so now you’re ready to give online dating a chance. You’ve made your profile and updated it and everyone’s ranting and raving about your catchy profile.

So, what photo are you going to put up on your profile? A bad picture will definitely ruin your chances of finding a good mate online. So, how would you know if your profile picture is good enough?

Jodie Brittain - CEO Slinky Australian Online Dating

Your Photo When Dating Online

2008-06-15T10:33:00.000+08:00

Here are a few tips and tricks that deal with uploading a good picture for your profile:

The best way to make your profile look more interesting is to add at least one picture of yourself to it. Without a profile photo you stand to lose at least 50% of potential viewers, thus minimizing your chances of finding the right match. According to studies, most people who indulge in online dating tend to opt out profiles that don’t have pictures.

Remember, your profile is your online dating personal ad and by filling in your profile you are marketing yourself. Look at photos in other interesting profiles. Does yours look as interesting? If no, then make sure you put up something that’s different and striking. Your picture must be of good quality and try to avoid putting up stretched or distorted pictures.

Avoid putting up pictures of yourself partying and clubbing hard and don’t put up group pictures. There are loads of similar pictures and they distract people from the real you. Yes, your profile will be a lot more inviting if it has a picture on it, but you’re still not going to stand out from the crowd if you put up pictures of yourself in a crowd!

So, do yourself justice. Accept criticism from friends and don’t be biased.

Jodie Brittain

More On Profile Photos And Online Dating

2008-06-14T10:35:00.001+08:00

Get someone who has a digital camera to click your pictures. Make sure you take a fair number of pictures, 20 or more, perhaps on different days or settings because all of the pictures may not come out well. At least you’ll have a good selection to choose your picture from.

Choose a good backdrop. Go to the beach or a field and have pictures taken against this backdrop. Choose a background that’s fun and romantic and your clothes should also suit the setting.

If you’re bold enough and have the body for it, then you’ll probably want to flaunt your body by wearing a bikini or swimming trunks. These pictures have very high view rates. So, it’s probably a good idea. However, if you have any kind of disfigurement, you could get it airbrushed. Models do this all the time!

If you have more than one picture of yourself in different poses and doing interesting activities, then it advisable to post one picture of each activity. In addition to your head-and-shoulders shots, pictures of you skiing or at the theatre or even participating in an exciting sport will help draw more attention to your profile. This proves that you actually do all of those things that you say you do in your online dating profile, making you look a lot more interesting to your viewers.

So, put up a good profile picture and watch how your popularity rates soar sky high!

Jodie Brittain

Online dating etiquette for men

2008-04-18T13:56:00.003+08:00

Online dating is becoming extremely popular across the world. Call it whatever you want, online dating or internet dating it is now the ‘in’ thing to do, especially for those who are busy with their professional lives or for those who have tried the real dating scene and not liked it. Online dating is fast catching up and even more so in United States of America, Canada and Australia.

People and specially men prefer the privacy and anonymity that online dating gives them rather than blind dates and speed dating.

There are some etiquettes that need to be followed while dating online.

1. Screen Names – This is the most basic etiquette where online dating is concerned as it deals with the first and most basic thing of your online dating profile. Your screen name should reflect on the kind of person you are. Choose screen names that are appropriate. Avoid offensive and suggestive screen names like ‘hot4u’, ‘sexylover’, ‘richhotguy’ and other such names. These are names that are suggestive and just pathetic. Either use your own name as a screen name or use your initials. You do not want to put off prospective love interests just because of your screen name.

2. Respect time – as there are more women than men on online dating sites, women get harassed with the number of emails. Keep your email short, simple and respectful so as not to offend the lady reading it or by taking up too much of her time to just understand your email.

Jodie Brittain

More on online dating etiquette for men

2008-04-17T10:41:00.001+08:00

More Online Dating Tips

3. Be specific – the person on the receiving end is not someone who has free time on her hands, if she did, she would be out there dating real men. When you email a lady, ask her specific questions like ‘do you enjoy going for movies?’ or ‘what field of work are you in’ instead of just “ what do you do?” “What do you like to do?” or better yet “tell me about yourself”. This is not an essay writing contest, the women may not have time to answer such generic question. Respect her time and be specific.

4. Read carefully – this again boils down to respecting a woman’s time and specifications. If a woman has listen in her profile she is looking for men between the ages of 27 to 35 and you are 21, do not waste her time and yours contacting her. Similarly if she is looking for Australian outback men and you are an American, why waste time and energy only to be rejected?

5. if you do not have a picture on your profile and the woman who are interested in wants a profile with a picture, then either do not bother contacting her or send her your picture through email.

6. Do not get poetic – writing poetry and sonnets to impress a woman is more or less a thing of the past. Do not put up a poet about you in your profile. Do not even put up a poem about the kind of woman you are looking for. And do not send out a poem in the first contact email you are sending to the woman you like.

Jodie Brittain

More online dating etiquette tips

2008-04-16T10:43:00.001+08:00

Dating Etiquette Continued...

7. Use correct English – this one is not about etiquette or maybe it is. But please all you men out there use a dictionary, a thesaurus or activate spell check on your computers. There is nothing worse than incorrect spellings and grammar. Some women even consider it rude that you did not take the time and effort to rectify mistakes in spellings or grammar.

8. Personalise emails – women move around in groups and they do things together. So it is highly possible that they have signed up for online dating as a group effort. Sending the same email to women is considered rude. It means you did not take the trouble or the time to read her profile and send a personalised email.

9. If a woman fixes up a date with you, and then cancels do not send her hate mails. She was not interested and informed you, you can’t blame her for her preference. Take it with a pinch of salt and move on. But please do not do childish things like sending hate mails.

10. If you do send women hate mails and guilt mails, you are proving them right that they were right by canceling out on you. Take it like a man and move on. Show respect to their choice they same way you would expect them to respect yours.

Follow these simple steps and etiquettes and you should do just fine in the online dating world.

Jodie Brittain

Success with Online Dating

2008-03-06T16:22:00.002+09:00

When it comes to online dating and looking for a long-term relationship on the Internet, there are quite a few who are quite skeptical. There are plenty of avenues that Internet users can begin with when looking for singles in Australia, sites like www.slinky.com.au are apt and serve the purpose extremely well. The online dating Australia is growing exponentially since many singles have found ideal matches and a larger pool of potential matches. According to a study online dating, ninety four percent users that built a relationship by communicating via instant message, email, scraps etc and went on a date have met up again. This percentage of elite singles is increasing day by day and shows the impact that online dating has in reality.

Also single male Australians are more honest and emotionally dependent on their online women partners while the single Australian women are bolder when it comes to sexual preferences because of virtual anonymity. This has shown that honesty is not an issue when it comes to online dating and each are more committed to the relationship. Though online dating is popular, the users then go on to traditional dating methods for a better stability and commitment in the relationship. In this way the Australian singles forge a long-term relationship and add to the success stories of online dating.

The secret in finding a long-term relationship is in the amount of communication between the users; the more IM’s were used the better they understood each other. The additional advantage that the online dating sites have is that people of each age group have found their ideal matches, no matter if they were 18 or 75. And in order to find single Aussies in an area that is close, sites have search databases that are for Melbourne singles, Adelaide singles, Darwin singles, Hobart singles, Sydney singles etc. Online dating services have a variety of other features that ensure the singles meet each other like online couple games, chat rooms, etc this ensures that the Australian singles are introduced to other singles.

The online dating site removes the need for singles to guess their potential dates likes and dislikes. This is because the user profiles are detailed and lets them know everything required keeping them prepared; this is what traditional dating methods lack. So is responsible for the success in long-term relationships when it starts off from online dating. In order that the user does not narrow down potential matches, the dating sites offer them to pursue more than one relation at a time, a bonus that traditional dating does not allow. So when the relation goes sour you can easily cut off ties and pursue an alternative match that meets your preferences better. This saves you the trouble of emotional heartache, blues, etc and another plus of online dating bettering the success of online dating.

There are other benefits that online dating, one of them is that you can commit to a relationship only when you are ready and this is possible since the pressure of starting one is not felt online. Variety is another benefit that most users overlook, and is not seen in traditional matchmaking by friends and family. And there are plenty of others for Aussie singles that only online dating let you experience as words fall short of the pleasant emotions you go through.

Jodie Brittain

Internet no longer a last resort for young singles

2008-01-31T23:45:00.001+09:00

Traditionally thought of as a last resort for lonely hearts, Internet dating sites are reporting co-eds and frat brothers are also joining the ranks of online daters.

According to a March 2006 report from the Pew Internet & American Life Project, 18 percent of 18- to 29-year-old Internet users have visited an online dating site and 31 percent of American adults know someone who has used a dating website.

Gail Laguna, a spokeswoman for Collegeluv.com, a dating site with 500,000 members, said young people use the Internet to search for love because they feel comfortable in this kind of interaction.

"It's a demographic that has grown up going online to communicate with friends . . . and so [they] are more likely to adopt to using an online dating service," Laguna said.

She said most of Collegeluv.com's members are not looking for long-term love when they join the site. Instead, she said, they are just trying to meet new people.

"It's another way to expand your social circle for those people who may not feel like going out, but still want to socialize and find a relationship," Laguna said.

Los Angeles-based author and dating coach Evan Marc Katz said he attributes the rise in college-aged online daters to the pervasive role technology and the Internet have in young people's lives.

"Younger people grew up with computers," Katz said. "It makes perfect sense to use this medium to find and establish relationships."

He said people who have pictures of themselves on networking sites such as MySpace and Facebook are probably not concerned with maintaining anonymity and would be more open to establishing internet relationships.

"It's a matter of fact that computers are not an addition to their life -- they are their life," Katz said.

Older generations typically view online dating negatively because they are not used to establishing internet relationships, he said.

"There will be less of a perceived stigma for a generation of people who have never known anything but computers."

Katz said he did not think most college students have trouble networking and socializing, since they are constantly surrounded by peers. "It's a little bit surprising that they would need [help finding a date]."

Boston University College of Arts and Sciences sophomore Nathalie Medina said curiosity made her check out Match.com after the company aired commercials depicting younger people using the dating service.

Expecting to find singles in their 30s and 40s looking for serious relationships, she said she was surprised to find people her own age listed on the website.

Although students have established a stronger presence on dating websites, Medina said she still does not find the idea of finding love online appealing.

"It still has that aura of desperateness," she said. "It still seems it's for older people who are searching for their soul mate -- I'm so young that I'm just not interested in that right now."

Jessica Li
Staff writer Evelyn Ratigan contributed reporting to this article.

Hot fuss: why is online dating still treated as though it's mysterious and new?

2008-01-29T12:09:00.001+09:00

Can we get over this whole "online dating" thing and stop calling it a phenomena? After its initial boom and mystery practically 10 years ago, why are we still freaking out about it? I suppose that it's still technically new, and that the Internet and social networking and meeting people online is somewhat scary to the more conservative and the blessed technophobes.

However, surely mainstream media is a bit tired of analyzing the mystifying concept of online courtships? Between the "It's dangerous! It could kill you!" forewarnings, the Bridget Jonesy "It's so hard to find a nice bloke online" articles and books, why are we still *realizing* that its just as hard to meet The One online as it is in real life?

I'm not sure why people are still under the illusion that:

a) it's easier to meet people online

b) tech savvy daters online don't understand that most people lie or are exaggerating to some degree, because they do

c) if you meet someone online they will definitely try to kill you

d) it's a good idea to meet someone you hardly know at their remote farmhouse in a forgien country because you talked on the phone once or twice and feel a *real connection*

Look, maybe I'm just used to being around bloggers, tech nerds, and people who spend more time indoors hunched over laptops than they do outside in the fresh air...but I just don't understand the fascination any more. Sure, I think there are some news stories regarding online dating which are newsworthy. If you're giving actual advice instead of just moaning and whinging about how you meet complete losers all the time and GOD WHERE IS HE ALL READY, that's just boring. Online dating can be cool, but must we really mull over the same angles, news stories and columns every damn week?

Some new stories I'd like to see on the whole internet dating story or how the internet effects couples are the following:

-Couples who got married after meeting online: do you still email each other? Do you still refer to your husband as SexyIsBack343? Do you read all your old chat sessions together every anniversary and reminisce? Do you spice up your sex life with random acts of cyber sex, just to keep things interesting?

-Are you a parent who's son or daughter who only dates people they find online? Are you concerned, or does it seem normal to you? Or are you too busy trying to wean your son of WoW to care how he meets girls, and are just happy he's attractive to someone, somewhere?

-Are you the partner of a famous blogger and/or web celeb? Do you get sick of them posting *cute* photos of you on Flickr and sharing with the world your flatulence problem?

-Have you caught your online boyfriend cheating on you on Facebook? Did an unsuspecting coworker tag a photo of him taking a jello shot off some girl at his office party? Did you totally change your relationship status after that?

See? Wouldn't that me a new, fresh angle on the whole dating and relationship culture online? Wouldn't you want to read that instead of how some dude met some chick and she was a lot uglier than she was in her photos, whilst never actually admitting that he too lied about being 25 and an ex Abercrombie & Fitch model?

Cate Sevilla met her husband online. They met after three months of legitimate talking and online tomfoolery. However, this was mostly due to to that ocean in between them at the time.

Dating - writing a good online dating profile

2008-01-29T11:57:00.001+09:00

January 24, 2008

A good online dating profile will get many times the responses that a poor one will get, so it is well worth the effort. You will get a lot more replies if you include good photos, so find a friend who can take good photos of you. The photos should be no more than a year old. It is much better to have a recent, accurate photo, than to run the risk of disappointing the person when you meet them because you look older or more out of shape than your photo. Make sure one photo is a good closeup of your face, and it´s a big plus if you are smiling in that photo. It is also a plus if you include additional photos of you doing things you enjoy so that they get a picture of what you are like in action.

Pick an online name that is positive and something that might interest the kind of person you would like to meet.

Be sure to write at least a full paragraph about yourself and what you like to do. Usually it is better to write more. You might write about what music you like, if you watch or participate in sports, if you like to watch movies, if you like travel and where you have gone, if you like to eat in restaurants or like to cook, and what hobbies or interests you have. Try to include things about yourself that make you special. If you have children, mention them, but remember the profile is about you, not your children.

Do not include any remarks about not wanting cheaters, liars, people who play games, or anything that might give the impression you are still angry about a past relationship. This can kill your chances with someone nice faster than anything. Leave the past in the past.

Go ahead and mention what you would like in a partner, but make it sound positive and open. "Fat people need not apply," would simply be rude and get a very negative reaction from a lot of people, even people who are slender and athletic. Better would be something like, "Looking for someone to share my interest in healthy eating and fitness."

Being negative about anything in your profile will likely turn away some of the very people you would like to meet because they will associate you with those negative feelings. You want your readers to feel good when they read your profile, because if you make them feel warm and make them smile, they are much more likely to respond.

Good Luck with your online dating.

Reasons people join and leave online dating sites.

2007-11-13T10:39:00.002+09:00

We have a quick questionnaire at Slinky when members decide to suspend their dating profiles. It is a multiple choice type asking 'why' they are suspending their online dating profiles at Slinky. I thought some of you may be interested in the results.

26.09%
I have found a partner here

14.43%
I have found a partner at another dating site

17.35%
I have found a partner somewhere else

7.08%
I just joined for a look around - I've got a partner already

15.02%
I just joined for a look - but changed my mind

4.04%
I just joined for a look - but I want a sex personals site instead

2.13%
The site was too slow

1.37%
I was sent too much system mail (Kisses/matches etc)

4.39%
The matches didn't suit me

8.1%
Not enough members in my area

As you can see, some of the reasons we are glad of (ie: I found a partner here), some are beyond our control (ie: I just joined for a look - but changed my mind), while the issues we can control - we are working on.

Max.

Free Online Dating

2007-10-17T21:56:00.001+08:00

Fast Facts:

1. Up to 30% of American singles have used dating sites

2. 40% of men don’t feel confident meeting women

3. The overall cost of sites has dropped over the last 2 years

4. On the first date, most women think men aren’t truthful

5. Generally, men prefer women younger than themselves

6. 60% of women prefer men older than themselves

7. Most people would prefer to be in a relationship than not

8. Over 30% of women don’t like clingy guys

9. Most women say personality is more important than looks

If you are an Australian single, you should join Slinky today.

Max

Amusing online dating listing

2007-10-08T14:54:00.001+08:00

The following amusing excerpt is from an online dating advert on Craigslist.

Woman: I’m a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy. I’m not from New York. I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don’t think I’m overreaching at all.

Man: Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a cr@ppy business deal. Here’s why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here’s the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity…in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold…hence the rub…marriage. It doesn’t make good business sense to “buy you” (which is what you’re asking) so I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Max

Online Dating Traffic - Sept

2007-10-02T13:35:00.001+08:00

I just had a look at our traffic for September - and it looks great!!

Considering we spent close to zero $ on traffic in September for online dating, we are ecstatic with the results.

We are putting the final touches to a marketing campaign - which will hopefully kick off in October - that should see membership dramatically increase.

Max

Online Dating Video Traffic

2007-09-26T13:05:00.001+08:00

I noticed a sharp rise in rejected profiles today. As many would know, we don't accept members from outside Australia. This is primarily because we are an Australian online dating website for Australian singles.

We have a great antifraud system set up called MinFraud, which stops anyone located outside Australia from joining as a member.

Apart from the fact we don't want members from outside Australia - it also stops the scammers - which are a massive problem on dating sites.

When we first started slinky, we were inundated with users trying to become members from places like Ghana, Nigeria and Russia trying to hide their locations pretending to be in Australia by using local post codes that turned out to be false.

It's pretty funny actually, because I thought 'Gee look at all these glamorous' girls joining Slinky" - great!!

Sure enough we learned the hard way that they were using stolen credit cards to buy credits and contacting 100's of members at a time. It took us a few months to sort out, but the MinFraud system works great now!

Anyway getting back to my post....most of the rejects are usually from Russia etc, but I noticed that we were getting about 50-60 per day from the US now.

I now realize that they are all coming from the video ads that I posted on Youtube, Metacafe etc......oh well.

Max
Slinky Online Dating Service

Squidoo

2007-09-26T10:30:00.001+08:00

One of the coolest Web 2.0 sites in my opinion is Squidoo. You can have a look at Slinky's page here. I reckon Squidoo is a great tool, not only for traffic, but if you have a look at some of the better 'lenses' you will see how informative many of them are.

Max

Slinky Online Dating Video

2007-09-24T12:04:00.001+08:00

We added a new quick Slinky Video at Youtube and one at Metacafe. It is basically just a 30 second advert for Slinky online dating services - we will be honing our skills at video making over the next few months (they sure need it I know!)

This is another one. If you care to comment, let me know which one you think is the best..

Max

Google Adsense for Online Dating

2007-09-19T10:12:00.001+08:00

We have changed the format of Slinky around a bit.

We made it a bit wider and have added some Google Adsense ads (to help pay the bills!)

I hope we haven't added too many - and we will be testing the load speed for pages over the next week or so, to make sure they haven't slowed the site at all.

Max
Slinky Dating Service

Slinky Public Chat Room

2007-09-17T11:42:00.001+08:00

When we set up the Userplane instant messenger at Slinky - it came with a public chat room. We set this up with the instant messenger, but I never really liked it - so I disabled it.

The reason for this is because I never really felt comfortable with it - for a relationships site like slinky is.

I think chat rooms are more suited to adult type websites like adultfriendfinder and sites of that ilk.

I guess if we get enough requests for it to be reinstated we will have another look at it.

Instant Messenger (IM) will of course remain - which is a great feature :)

Max
Internet Dating Service - Australia

Organic Search Results for Online Dating

2007-09-15T10:29:00.001+08:00

Our Search Engine Optimization (SEO) efforts have been rewarded slowly over the last few months. For the term 'online dating' which is the most searched term (by far) in Australia - we are now ranking very well.

Google (Australia) - Page 1 / Position 7-9
Live (Australia GEO) - Page 1 / Position 1
Yahoo (Australia GEO) - Page 1 / Position 1

Obviously positions change depending on the searchers location. On the basis we are an Australian only website (and don't allow anyone to sign up from outside Australia) we are only looking for users based in Australia.

The other point I suppose is that these positions change constantly - so fingers are always crossed that we haven't upset the SE Gods with some changes that we may have made or any site editing.

Max
Online Dating Site

Online Dating Traffic

2007-09-10T12:21:00.001+08:00

We made a decision to reduce our online dating traffic purchases for Slinky - Google Adwords & Yahoo Search Marketing - while monitoring traffic and site usage - for a month or so without it. So far the results look extremely encouraging.

Time spent on the site and number of pages each user views have sky rocketed. It will be very interesting to see the results at the end of September.

Max

100% Free Online Dating Press Release

2007-09-05T11:14:00.001+08:00

This is where we announced our move to free dating on PRWeb

As you will see from this PR, there was a reason why we decided to do this.

Max
Slinky 100% Free Online Dating

Firefox V's Internet Explorer

2007-09-04T10:51:00.000+08:00

ok I know this post has nothing to do with online dating but I just had to say this.

For as long as I can remember, most of the web developers that I have dealt with on a daily basis have tried to get me to switch to Firefox from Internet Explorer.

I have used it on and off - but never really taken to it. A couple of weaks ago I noticed my IE continually crashing - and more importantly - Slinky was loading really slow in it. So I switched to Firefox.

My browser has not crashed once since then.

I am afraid IE has gotten the boot now for good - and will only be used to test compatibility when we test new web pages at Slinky.

Max

Slinky Dating Australia - Update

2007-09-04T10:20:00.001+08:00

Following on from our announcement that Slinky Dating Australia is now a 100% free online dating website for Australian singles; we have much pleasure in announcing that we have added Instant Messaging for members to communicate with other members who are online at the time.

We are using the Userplane platform - and it is of course 100% free to use.

Max

Online Dating Australia

2007-09-01T08:38:00.001+08:00

Hi, the most exciting news in Australian online dating (at least we think so!) happened on the 31st August 2007 when Slinky announced to all Australian singles that the online dating website was now 100% free to use.

Slinky had always been a user pay model where members paid to contact other members that they were interested in - while registration was always free and sending kisses was always free - to send an actual email, members needed to have credits in their account.....

Well that all changed on 31st August - and now members can use all the online dating websites features 100% free.

Advertising at Slinky

2007-08-02T10:59:00.001+08:00

Have you got a product or service that you would like to show Australian singles?

Slinky has a whole range of possibilities for you. Banners, flyer's and text links can all be purchased for site wide rotation.

Banners can be rotated through all search results and match reports together with top right hand corner, bottom left corner and vertical skyscrapers. They can be served to either male or female users or both genders.

Give me a shout to cut a deal.

Max
Online Dating Australia

My Dating Profile at Slinky

2007-07-05T14:15:00.001+08:00

This is my new dating profile at Slinky. My nickname is MaxR at Slinky.

I am actually married - so I'm only on Slinky to help members looking for assistance (..but thanks for the nice messages!) Let me know if I can help you with your online dating experience. You can contact me here.

Max

Max Renouf - Marketing Manager

2007-07-01T14:08:00.001+08:00

Just a brief - hello, to introduce myself.

I am Max - and I am the Marketing Manager at Slinky Online Dating Australia. I am involved with creating the Slinky community, marketing online dating services to Australian singles and generally looking after Slinky's members.

I also welcome feedback - good, bad or otherwise. So give me a shout if I can help with anything.

Max Renouf
Slinky Dating Australia

Online Dating for those who are Shy

2007-03-06T16:18:00.001+09:00

If you’re a bit shy and reserved in large groups and you need to know someone really well before they actually get to see the real you, then online dating is probably the best thing for you. With the fast paced lives that all of us are living in today, being shy and reserved can prove to be more problematic than you imagine, especially in the world of dating. If you have considered going in for online dating before and have shied away from posting your pictures in your profile for the whole world to see, then here are a few tips to help you increase your confidence and have Internet dating success.

So, if confidence is not your key factor, then there are loads of online dating websites on the Internet that provide a number of techniques and pointers for the shy person. In Australia, the numbers of shy and reserved people who have started taking to online dating have increased tremendously over the past few years. Most Australians who are actively involved in online dating have confessed that they were not always that confident. There are many online dating sites that can help boost your confidence.

What these online dating sites can do for you?

• Privacy – Most online dating sites have this wonderful way of respecting their members’ privacy. So, it is very unlikely that you will have your coworker or neighbor going through your profile. You can be rest assured that it will only be available to your online matches. These websites provide you with a way to communicate with all your matches while still remaining anonymous. You are given the option whether or not to share your phone numbers, e-mail address, address, or even your surname.
• Matchmaking – Most matchmaking websites that are dedicated to helping out the shy have a system wherein they find matches for their members based on roughly 29 dimensions of compatibility that are generally found in successful relationships. So, finding someone who is just right for you and who will bring out the best in you is the whole aim of the game. The second step is to evaluate the personal chemistry.
• Communication process – Once you have met your match, the communication process begins. Here is how you go about breaking the ice. Firstly, you will be prompted to ask as well answer five different multiple-choice questions. Then you will be encouraged to share your ‘Must Have’s’ and ‘Cant Stand’s’. Apart from this, you will have to ask and answer any three short questions.

With most of the other online dating services and sites, you’ll probably end up wasting a lot of time and energy in coming up with a real zesty email to try and grab someone’s attention. However, with these particular online sites that are dedicated to helping the shy, you will only start writing emails once you know that your match is also interested in you.

The communication process of these sites will allow your relationship to grow over a period of time. With each small step, you will get to share a little more with each other. It enables you to slowly and steadily get to know one another better and to become more and more comfortable with each other.

However, with time, the anonymity of the whole communication process will allow you to relax and be more like yourself. Once this happens, you will find that you are in a great place with an amazing person who loves and appreciates you.

So, if you happen to be a little shy and still haven’t that special someone, then hop onto the Internet bandwagon and start dating online. You never know what lies ahead. So take that bold step and change your life forever.

Is Online Dating Really Serious Or Just For Fun

2007-02-11T11:52:00.001+09:00

We have a number of online lovers and flirts, some serious and some not. These are not the only two categories in which you can classify them. There are a few people who are serious
daters, but most of them are not. The reason maybe, it does not always work. For some, online dating always clicks, which eventually makes them online flirts. So, is online dating always
serious or is it always fun?

It’s basically the way you look at it. If you hit upon and join the right online dating site, you can meet loads of people trying to interact with each other and ready to date. Now, it’s up to you,
whether to be serious or not. You can generate conversations with absolutely anyone online in that particular site and get friendly. Serious buddies who are looking for online dates
seriously choose people to interact with and truthfully share information about them. Actually, these are the people who are mostly taken for a ride.

People, who just take it as a joke, sometimes act like funny while chatting. They exchange wrong information about their age, location, and occupation and even gender sometimes. When asked for photographs, these teasers send fake and impressive snaps, so that the person across does not lose contact with you. All those online loiterers tease these serious people and have fun with them and play on their emotions. Though there are different categories of teenagers, middle age people, divorcees, etc., anyone can access any of these categories simply by registering yourself and giving fake details.

Jodie Brittain

Online Dating Serious Or Just Fun

2007-02-10T11:55:00.001+09:00

If you are planning a serious online date, make sure you have the ability of differentiating between the serious and the teasers. This happens only after you spend a lot of time online and
interact with several people with different parameters. There’s nothing wrong having fun online. It’s not necessary to give fake details to have fun; one can even give the right details and not
be serious. Different people expect different things out of online dating like, love, attention, life-partner, friends, date, sex, etc.

There is this incident I knew, in which the girl and the boy got friendly with each other and exchanged wrong genders. They kept chatting online almost everyday and since they were
located in the same state, they planned on a meeting. They gave hints of their clothes for each other’s recognition. When they got to the venue, they actually were reluctant on greeting each
other because they both expected opposite of what they were seeing. Eventually the boy gathered courage and asked the girl if she was the same person who had been chatting to him like a guy He confessed that he was the same person at the other end, acting like a girl. Since both were equally wrong, they both laughed about it and actually went out on a date. They got married to each other a month later.

So sometimes having fun while online dating can also turn serious. Not only guys, but also girls have like to take online date hunters for a ride and have fun. For most of them, it’s a best and
the most enjoyable way of killing time. Remember also that online dating could also get you connected to perverts, so be very careful so that you do not get caught in an unpleasant
situation.

Jodie Brittain

Are Online Dating Sites really worth the Trouble?

2007-01-01T16:13:00.001+09:00

The whole concept of finding a partner online goes all the way back to the 90’s, when the Internet happened to be in its embryonic stages. Among the Australian pioneers was slinky.com, which is now a massive conglomerate that sports over one million paying subscribers from all over the country, and overseas. Today, there is indeed no lack in the number of people who are going online and are willing to put down their personal details.

But, are online dating sites really worth the trouble? Does it represent a forward step in the world of dating? So, is online dating a good enough alternative for single’s bars and pubs? Some people still think that Internet dating is only for those who are desperate and would do anything to get a date. No doubt there are many people out there who are like this, but online dating is also for those ordinary folks who wouldn’t mind giving it a try.

Yes online dating is definitely worth the trouble. It’s a neat idea wherein you can go online and find yourself a date by just browsing through the pictures and profiles that many of the dating sites and online dating services have to offer. Yes, online dating has become a lot more socially acceptable now than it ever was. The Internet has succeeded in revolutionizing the dating scene across the globe.

Today, there are radio and even TV ads that market online dating sites. So, if online dating wasn’t so successful, and above all wasn’t so popular, the media wouldn’t be spending big bucks on advertising it on TV or on the radio. Now, singles who are sick and tired of the traditional approach to dating find online dating a better alternative. What’s more, you get to be a lot more selective when using the Internet as compared to meeting someone in person.

The forerunner to Internet dating was probably posting ads in newspapers. But, nowadays along with the fast-developing technology, numerous online dating sites have sprung up all over the Internet. But, like most other things, there will always be people who are resistant to change. Nevertheless, there are many reasons as to why online dating is worth it. Here are a few:

• Safety – the best part about online dating is you can be absolutely anonymous. None of your personal details can be given out, unless you allow it.
• Security – if the person you’ve been chatting with turns out to be a fraud, you can ignore him or her without batting an eyelid. It’s as easy as that. Since no one knows where to find you, you can be rest assured that you will always be safe with online dating.
• Free – most online dating sites and services are free. So, you can sign up and log on to their services for free!
• Cheaper than regular dating – as compared to dating in the real world, online dating is a lot cheaper. No more wining and dining your dates, no more spending on movie tickets and opera tickets. With online dating, you can date several people at one time and at absolutely no cost!
• A vast array of choices – the Internet is a single’s dream come true. There are thousands and thousands of single’s signed up and searching for a partner out there so you have a wide choice lying ahead of you.

Yes Internet dating does work. So, if you’re bored of the regular approach towards dating, why not consider this digital approach? The success rate is a lot higher and it has a way of bringing together people from all over the world! Yes, the parade will continue and Internet dating sites will still march on in spite of being mocked at and ridiculed. Despite all the problems involved, millions and millions of people are signing up for online dating every day. It seems that as long as the Internet survives, people will always search for love over the net, hoping to find that magical hookup.

Dating the Australian Way – tips for safe online dating

2006-10-17T16:28:00.001+08:00

The world of Internet dating is growing in leaps and bounds. More and more people across the world prefer finding love on the Internet than actually putting themselves out there and risking their hearts. The Internet offers them a medium where they can be anonymous to an extent and yet find what they are looking for. Singles who are busy with their careers prefer online dating.

All they have to do is sign up with an Online-dating site and create a profile that is creative, witty and perks up the interest of the reader. Your profile has to be a reflection of the kind of person you are, it should give the reader an insight into your personality.

Once you have created your profile for an online dating site, you have to search for the kind of people who you are interested in. if you are an Australian, you will want to limit your search to single in Australia. You can search for singles according to cities like, Sydney singles, Perth Singles, Melbourne singles and so on.

After you have started interacting with one or two people from the dating site, you start getting to know that person. You chat with these people at any free moment you get, at work, after work. You begin connecting with that person.

The next step is to meet up for an actual date, the first date.

Tips for Safe Internet dating

While you are interacting with a person on the Internet you are safe, but what happens when you have to meet that person. Follow these tips to ensure your personal safety. Remember the person on the other end is a virtual stranger to you.
• Never have your date pick you up from home. Always meet him or her at a specific prearranged place.
• Always meet in a public place. Avoid secluded and lonely places like parks. Consider going on a group or a double date.
• Always offer to pay for your half of the bill. This rules out any feeling of ‘obligation’.
• Never drink alcohol or too much alcohol on your first date. This affects your judgment and thinking capacity. It also lessens your inhibitions. You do not want to do anything you will regret later while you were under the influence of alcohol.
• Drive your own car or borrow a friend’s car when going on your first date. Never rely on your date for transportation. And make sure that you have enough fuel in your vehicle so that you are not stranded anywhere.
• Never assume that your date is safe, even if you have been in contact with that person for months. Always be alert.
• Never give out your private information to your date, details like phone numbers and address can be misused.
• Always let someone know where you are going and with whom. Be safe and have a friend call and check on you or meet you at the prearranged place towards the end of the evening.
• Listen to your gut feeling. If something doesn’t seem right then in all possibility it is not right. Even if you are having a great time never let your guard down.

Dating can be fun, especially online dating. But always remember to play it safe to keep yourself safe.

Jodie Brittain

Is Online Dating A Safe Bet For Emos

2006-10-08T12:51:00.001+08:00

The word Emos sounds like some sect of forest animals, who are extinct. Well, Emos are special kind of people living in the world, who are extremely emotional, shy, introverts and sensitive
by nature. They are into music and have a weird sense of dressing like adorning tight jeans, tight t-shirts, fancy big belts or old rugged shoes. The most essential concern for an Emo is
his/her hairdo. It is long straight hair, covering half the face or even full. Emos take great interest in music giving messages like heartbreaks, toughness in this complex world, suicides, etc.

They are mostly criticized as homosexuals, but they are not. Since they are very few and hard to talk to, it is very difficult to find exact matches for them. Through Internet, it is now become
very easy for these Emos to form their own community and date online. Actually, online dating is a very safe and secure way of dating for everyone with common sense. Although there is
some insecurity about online dating, one has to be clear with his motive and search accordingly.

As Emos, are very sensitive and emotional folks, there are chances of them being hurt, while they date online. They are few in number in their communities and very few join them. They do
not reveal facts about themselves or trust anyone so easily. First of all, while dating, Emos should change their attitude a little bit and become little more smarter, in order to face online
dating. The best part about them dating online is that they are very few and have limited likes and dislikes, which make them find a match easily from whatever is available. It is very difficult
to think like them. If a non-Emos portrays oneself as one of them, then he could be caught right away. It is actually risky for Emos to date online. But hold on, there’s always a way to reduce
this risk and have a hassle free dating.

Jodie Brittain

Is Online Dating A Safe Bet For Emos Continued

2006-10-07T12:53:00.000+08:00

Always stick to the Emo community: Though there are several communities, which are cosmopolitan, it becomes very essential for Emos to interact with people in their social community online. There could be non-Emos interacting as well, but with less number as compared to others.

Gauging the person while interacting: While interacting, you can always question, ask suggestions and advice. Through this you can gauge whether the person you are interacting is actual Emo or not. If the interest of the person isn’t matching with yours in anyway, he/she is probably not an Emo or even if he/she is, and your interests do not match, then you are not meant to be for each other.

Ignorance is bliss: There would always be some teasers and critics to discourage and humiliate you. Since you are online, it should not bother you. Ignoring messages and mails from such people and avoiding them, is the best alternative to have a happy online dating experience.

Don’t trust: Do not trust everyone and anyone, who adds you in the friends’ list. Some of the people might be out to scam you financially or emotionally, considering you are sensitive and angst. Take some time, interact well, share non-confidential information, and let the person build his/her trust in you and then make the following moves.

Hence, online dating is a safe bet for Emos and their communities.

Jodie Brittain

How To Score A Date With A Woman Online

2006-07-06T12:41:00.001+08:00

There are a few etiquettes men should follow, while they are dating online to find a perfect woman. Everyday there are several men, who are rejected by women because they do not know, what to write or how to express themselves. The moment you speak to a woman about her body, sex or anything tacky, on your first date, you would be rejected. You have to really know the woman, before you get into details with her. Here are a few tips for you men, who would employ online dating or dating already and for those, who are already rejected.

Your profile:Make sure your profile is remarkable and updated with latest information about yourself. If you are posting your snap, it should be a latest or most 3 months old. Do not lie or write something unreal about yourself and later get caught and be rejected. A lot of people, including women do that. Do not use language like,” I’m haute or hunk interested in so and so woman”, in your introduction. This is an idiot behavior. Use statements like, “a single male looking for the right girl to date”.

Jodie Brittain

More On How To Score A Date With A Woman Online

2006-07-05T12:46:00.001+08:00

Approach: More than your picture, your sense of humor should attract her. You might not be a very good-looking guy and would not like to post your picture, but the way you approach the woman should be impressive. Once you lose the chance of impressing her, there’s no second chance. When you are writing to her for the first time, never say, “I liked your picture and I think you are haute”. This is what most guys do and don’t win women. You must carefully read her profile and study her interests and see if your concerns match each other. This is the best and safe way to start your conversation.

Feedback: If the lady does not reply to your mail, do not mail her everyday asking why she didn’t reply to your first mail. This is a sign of desperation. Just hold your breath, till she gets back. If she does not reply for a week, just mail her once again to remind her about your mail and that you are interested, but guess she is not. Your introduction and conclusion should be very formal and gentle. Do not show her that you are angry. There are chances, she will reply to your mail.

Jodie Brittain

How To Score A Date With A Woman Online Part 3

2006-07-04T12:48:00.001+08:00

Your conversation:After you have got a reply, do not think she is interested to date you. She will first try to know you and then think of dating you. If she shows signs of closeness, then to date totally depends on how you handle and converse with her. Do not ask for her number, when she meets you and if you ever speak about sex, you would go for a toss. All your hard work would be useless. All concerns are to be spoken and discussed, only when she reaches the level of comfort with you and begins to trust you and shares enough with you.

Pictures and number:Now that you have been talking to her and exchanging a lot, it is the best time to casually ask her for her snap or other pictures of her. Do not insist. If she offers to give her number, take it and call her the next day. This shows that you are happy that she trusts you and not excited that you have got her number.

Other things:Do not confront her, if she does not call or email for more than 2 days or so.Do not call or email her every time you feel like.Always be genuine and behave like a gentleman.

This is how you could score a date with a woman online.

Jodie Brittain

Online Dating - Your Virtual Arena For Finding Love

2006-06-19T12:02:00.001+08:00

As technology and gizmos make life easier, why should dating be left behind? This new and interactive method of making friends and finding love has come a long way. With demanding
careers and lack of time the trend started with e-mails replacing letters, then came chatting and now we have various services to avail from in our new web based world.

This dating service, online, has evolved and grown with time. We now have websites dedicated to looking at and sorting out people to provide them with their perfect match. Assuming we
make so many mistakes while falling in love in reality this system has installed more trust in people giving them their, close to prefect, partner.

As you have to look great in reality your online profile has to be equally attractive. A few tips for you to get noticed are; firstly, your profile picture should always bring out the best in you.
Make sure you highlight your best physical feature and upload it as you profile picture, as that’s the first thing potential dates will look at.

Secondly, state some interesting facts about yourself. People are not only interested in how much you earn and how you look, it’s your hobbies and interests that will attract the right kind of person towards you. If you want to add a little bit of spice to your profile, state the most adventurous or most embarrassing thing you have ever done. This will add a lot of personality to your profile.

Jodie Brittain

Finding Love Online Dating

2006-06-18T12:05:00.001+08:00

While responding or asking someone out try not to leave the same lame and boring messages on their profile, get a bit more creative. Instead of saying “You’re the one I was waiting for” try
saying, “I like your profile, but I don’t know how well we’ll click. Let’s give it a try.” This will get the person interested and give them a little motivation to take on a challenge.

Another important fact to keep in mind is that it is not all about sex. Both genders make the same mistake and miss out on healthy relationships. While initiating conversation or even after
interacting with each other for a while never initiate sexual conversation till you both know you are comfortable and it’s the right time.

To get noticed keep updating your profile, this will keep you on top of the pile with people viewing your profile more often, in turn, giving you more options! Always remember people don’t have the time to look for you online. Keep updating your profile with pictures, new activities you have taken up or about a new book you read. All these facts will add to your profile’s personality and attract more people.

Lastly, to ensure information on your profile is safe and you get in touch with the right people protect information from people whom you would not be interested in. Narrow down your description of the sort of person you’re interested in to get exactly what you want and make sure you don’t share passwords with anyone.

With these tips to make your profile look better you’re assured to become one of the much sought after dates.

Jodie Brittain

Getting No Response While Online Dating

2006-04-14T12:35:00.001+08:00

It could be quite frustrating to find your match in the real world. But when you find the same thing happening online too, you might as well just give up. Right? Hell no…Computers can
surely do wonders for you, making two strangers meet, starting off a romantic fling and then who knows? But if you’re not getting too lucky at that, don’t go on blaming yourself for it; blame
it on the profile that you might have created. Oh yeah, the profile that you might have created with so much of thought is the root cause of you not getting lucky with the ladies online.

You really have to dig in to the viewer’s mindset when you’re preparing your profile and the line that says it all about yourself is the heading. If you mess it up here, say “ciao” to your dating
days. Your personality is supposed to reflect in the profile and if it’s not able to do that, you’ll just come across as a weirdo and then you can just move in with your mom and forget about
the ladies. The trick is that you don’t have to lie in your profile, but the least you can do is be a little creative.

Jodie Brittain

Things To Do To Get Yourself Noticed On Online Dating Sites

2006-04-13T12:37:00.000+08:00

When you think of a title for a profile, put it in such a way that it aptly describes you and at the same time makes you look more interesting. It should be a small sentence rather, charming
nonetheless. Something like “Hot Rod Needin Some Smeltin” is just a bit too, well, you know what. Instead, you can put a better title like “Dinner is on me” or perhaps “Fresh flowers
Everyday”. These titles make you come across as a rather romantic guy which is exactly what chics dig these days. You can even turn towards your friends for help in this matter by asking
them to point out the most catching feature in your personality and work around it to come up with a catchy heading.

Brainstorming is the key here and when you come up with some catchy names, you’re all set to go. Well, that’s that for the title, now moving on to your profile picture. Please don’t post up
images of Brad Pitt or George Clooney up there, we all know what they look like and what they looked like 10 years ago even. So put on your picture, the one that captures your personality
the most (anything but a baby pic!).

Let’s see, a picture of you playing with your dog is surely a lady killer, but make sure you love pets for that because the chic might be looking for just that. Then of course there is the column where you have to fill in the hobbies and interests. Please don’t go on filling that you love wrestling with tigers, hunting and stuff like that. Keep it subtle like you’re a guy, who likes long walks on the beach, traveling, etc. This keeps you in a safe spot.

So there you have it, these are the things you should remember if you don’t get any response online, it’s fun, try your hand at it, chances are you’ll be having a busy weekend with the lucky
lady.

Jodie Brittain

Flirting Singles Online – Way To Go Online Dating

2006-02-21T12:30:00.001+08:00

Flirting is fun and there is no doubt about it. I know so many guys that have bragged about scoring with the sexiest chic in school (Yes, we knew what sexy meant even in school!) and the
hottest blond in college. I won’t lie to you guys but boy, was I jealous or what! Who wouldn’t be, when your friends just get all the luck in the world and there you are, left alone in the library
after school, even during the weekends actually. Yeah, that was me and that was just sad. But during those days we didn’t have anything like online dating but now that we do, there is some
luck for my children, to say the least.

Online dating is surely the way to go these days. Everything has been made so much easier now and that is all thanks to the Internet. Hell, even flirting on the Net has become possible
because of this. Online dating is quite popular with people of all ages. Let them be teenagers, mid 20s, mid 40s and even those who are well over the age of 60 years. It’s like they always say,
it’s never too late to fall in love. So I say, just give online dating a try and you’ll see the results for yourself.

Jodie Brittain

More About Flirting Singles Online – Way To Go Online Dating

2006-02-20T12:32:00.000+08:00

There are so many reasons that you should give online dating a shot. You’d actually be surprised to find out the number of singles signing up to find their potential date online. I mean you
have the number increasing almost every day and owing to that, you have so many choices available and there are no boundaries for this. She could be from any country or even an entirely different continent for that matter.

One of the best things about online dating is that unlike actual dating, a blind date to be more precise, you won’t be all apprehensive about things such as what she looks like, what she’ll be
like as a person, whether she likes this or not, etc. Online dating helps you get rid of all these barriers as the singles are actually able to e-mail or even chat with a potential date, knowing
him/her in advance before setting up an actual date. Once you’re all comfortable with this certain someone, you can meet up and voila, online dating has taken care of dating troubles.

From that part on, obviously you have to go solo and if anything happens then to jeopardize your date, you can’t go on to blame the dating site. So be careful in case of online dating, taking certain precautions always pays off.

Flirting is always an all time favorite on online dating sites and you can truly indulge yourself in having some fun here. And it’s obvious that only singles indulge themselves in online dating,
so it’s just stupid guessing whether hey, is she single or not? Of course she’s single you retard! Why else would she go all through the trouble of signing up for a dating website? So there you
are, since you already know what exactly you’re in for, online dating is quite a fun thing for singles to do these days.

Jodie Brittain

Weird Choices In Online Dating 1

2005-09-05T11:40:00.001+08:00

How the hell am I supposed to know about that now?

As for what I understand from this so called “controversial” topic, there is no such thing as weirdos, it’s just people who have weird choices who are termed this way. Have you ever felt weird when you’re filling up those online dating profiles during the signing up process? Let me narrow it down a little, they ask you to fill up your eye color, your hair color, height, weight, etc. I mean seriously, why do all that when you can just simply ask for a full body picture. The chances of this not working is only if you’re a midget which is like one out of thirty times.

So, where exactly do you go if you’re one of those who have rather weird (or let’s call it eccentric) tastes when it comes to finding a potential date? Let’s be honest here, sites like
perfectmatch.com and eHarmony.com simply won’t give what you’re looking for. This will call you to venture out of the ordinary and indulge into weird dating sites which may suit your
tastes. Here they are at last, ending the suspense once and for all, some of the many weird choices for dating.

Jodie Brittain

Weird Choices In Online Dating 2

2005-09-04T11:42:00.000+08:00

Okay I just have to say this, this is just downright, freaking weird. I mean who would have even thought about dating especially meant for those who STILL love wearing diapers. Yeah,
there’s a whole new world out there people and you just cannot ignore it. How many times have you actually been a situation when you’re on a date with this really hot chic and suddenly
you see something wet crawling under you shoes? Oops, the blondie did some poopsie. Okay, I’ll try and be a bit more sensitive now, the website dailydiaper.com features single men and
women posing seductively “in their diapers”. What has the world come to?

Then there are those who are looking to date convicts. If the women are falling for the bad boy image and all, good luck to them because they aren’t your poster bad boys, they’re just bad
men. It’s even understandable if you’re a woman who’s into it for the sex. I mean even I have to agree that there is no sex better than conjugal visit sex. Supposedly, some say that it has a
good cause because this way the convicts get a more positive outlook at life through relationships they have outside. But a word of advice for singles who are interested in all this, people, please think again.

Jodie Brittain

Weird Choices In Online Dating 3

2005-09-03T11:44:00.000+08:00

Oh and my favorite, online dating sites for giants. Nope, you’re wrong, this is not a dating site for like minded New York Giants fans, but for actual giants. For those who are like really tall,
tallfriends.com is the site to be to meet people of your kind and start dating.

Datemypet.com, what is one to understand from this website, like just after glancing it. “Dude, I ain’t into animals, okay!”. Yeah, that’s what I thought at first too. However, this is a website
for singles that have pets and prefer the same. The weird thing about this site is that you not only have to fill in the details of your profile page, but also have to fill in that of your pets.
So there you have it, online dating for singles with weird choices. It’s like they say, there’s someone for everyone out there.

Jodie Brittain

Age No Bar For Online Dating

2005-01-10T12:21:00.000+08:00

Some might go say that online dating is simply perfect for seniors.

Partly they are right but if you’re over 50 and still have Rock Hudson kinda looks, you won’t face any problems scoring even with a woman who is 10-15 years younger to you. Not all of us are genetically gifted with gorgeous looks so for the rest of us, it’s either the ever so favorite “bingo nights” or a game of poker with some beer and cigars with your retirement buddies. But what if you give a thought about dating again? So what if you’re 50 or 60 years of age even?

What you guys should understand is that even if you think you are old, you’re young at heart and that’s what’s gonna count and keep you going.

Jodie Brittain

How Old Is Too Old For Online Dating

2005-01-09T12:23:00.001+08:00

Now let’s get to the obvious for a change, in the sense that lets not kid ourselves here. If you’re one of those who hasn’t dated anyone since you were 20, I have to give you a heads up right
now, that people, this is gonna be a little harder than you might have imagined. The simple reason being that things have changed by decades actually and you should know how the dating
scenario works these days. First of all, you don’t have to be shy and think that you’ve had your fun during the 60s and the 70s and now your time is gone. It’s still here people and what
better way to get back on the dating track than resorting to online dating via the Internet.

Companionship is what you guys are looking for and that’s exactly what you’ll get through online dating sites. Yeah, yeah, I know, online dating may come across as a thing that kinda suits
right only for the young kids and all. But in most of the online dating sites, you will always find a column for the age group of people that you might be interested in. That’s right; there is an
option for 50 and above too, so rest assured people. Once you get to see other profiles of people your age on the dating website, you will come across many like minded people such as
yourself and many of them may even share the same hobbies and interests that you have.

Jodie Brittain