Along with this article, here's some quick warning signs:
- They never seem to have fun. Their emotions are suppressed in everything, in fact; everything is "just OK" with them.
- Low self-esteem. Never feeling that they're good enough.
- The slightest change upsets them.
- Impulsive. They never think a relationship problem through, instead just looking for a quick fix.
- Zero self-confidence, as if they still thought of themselves as children.
- Clingy and insecure.
- Fear of strong emotions. Especially internalizing everything that's around them, like if you got upset because your car broke down they'll think you're mad at them.
- They're a living doormat.
The thing with codependents is, sure you can love them and even have a relationship with them, but they will burn you out. The load is all on you. If you think you have a codependent, consider counseling and therapy to try to treat issues, and also consider that they may be diagnosed with anxiety or depression, which tends to go together with codependent behavior.
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Really good points. I can really relate to "Low self-esteem. Never feeling that they're good enough." Thats a really bad sign :/
ReplyDeleteit is really true..being codependent really ruins a relationship..maybe you should start making things right..and stop being paranoid..
ReplyDeleteYes you right I can find these points as correct one. But every thing need to be under that correct amount to be able to hold a healthy relationship
ReplyDeleteAll are valid points. I like the point Fear of strong emotions.....think you're mad at them.
ReplyDeleteNice Keep up good Work...
Great blog!!! thank you for sharing this i will add this to my list....
ReplyDeleteWell these are amazing guide for lovers thanks for share
ReplyDeleteThanks to all advice and tips.
ReplyDeleteWell... I guess no one likes guys who has low self-esteem and confidence. It only happens in the movies I suppose where the shy type becomes the choice. Good read. :)
ReplyDeleteI believe that there are times that in each and everyone of us are being codependent. It's not a bad thing, but you have to make a way to remove this kind of attitude.
ReplyDeleteIt's kind of funny, I have a friend who's like this. First she dated a guy who was only into video games. Then she dated a guy with major phobias and couldn't even sit on a chair without having a towel under it. Then she dated a guy that committed suicide.
ReplyDeleteFor some reason, she's attracted to guys that she likes to take care of. It's interesting.
As a dating tip for men and women, I think everyone should take a moment to pause and think about what are the "dark things" that we're attracted to? It could help us pursue healthier relationships.
Thanks to all the above mention citations.
ReplyDeleteBut i think we should practice being controlled by our emotions since it is a big aspect of one's life.
everything is true..specially in having a low self esteem they are pessimistic about life, often viewing things as half-empty and remembering the worst in people.
ReplyDeleteI think there is a slight degree of codependent behavior in all of us. However, a problem can arise when this starts to impact on the relationship in general. Good article.
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