Life can be tough on a marriage. From the problems at work and caring for the kids to working out the finances and getting everything done at home, sometimes couples can’t help it but focus on everything else except their relationships. Many marriages have fallen apart because couples spend so much time on everything else that they forget the most important thing, each other.
This is why married couples need to take vacations, even if it is just for a weekend. Travelling has many wonderful benefits; it is therapeutic, fun and encourages relaxation. A holiday relaxing in a private luxury villa can work wonders on your relationship.
Gimme a “C” and what’s that stand for? “Communication”! Straight Talk 4 Women reminds us that bad assumptions can knock your love life for a loop – and you’d never see them coming. On a related note, bad assumptions are usually related to cognitive biases. They’re little booby traps in thinking that many of us have – little bugs in the brain’s natural programming. Many of the cognitive biases can hurt a relationship, too. “Confirmation bias” is present when we go around saying “all men are jerks” or “all women cheat”. “Hindsight bias” can make you feel like you must have been dumb not to have seen the breakup coming. “Framing” comes into play when we say things like “I must lose weight before I date” – neglecting that some dates just may not care if you’re a little chubby.
“Don’t date crazy” is a typical admonition, but how do you spot one beforehand? We’ve all had the experience of finding out someone was less psychologically stable than we’d hoped. We’re not here talking about true mental cases, but just people whose potential disorders can shipwreck a relationship before it gets out of harbor. And relationships are a delicate matter, most affected by someone’s issues when they can still hold down a job and a reasonable place in society.
Anyway, don’t take any one of these for a total limit. But more than one on the list might be a reason to think about whether you want to keep on with this person.
According to the dating experts over at Aussie Babes, there’s a lot to love in this list of six signs you’ve fallen into the ‘friend zone’, but while we’re at it, why not try to find the point where we made the mistake to end up here, and then see what we could do differently? Follow along with the list, guys:
When your date mentions that she is seeing someone else: your mistake was in not making it clear that you thought of the two of you as being “serious”! In any case, when it gets this far, move to the dump stage. Try to end it gracefully and advise them to try;