meetingmillionaires.com - Why Do Women date Sugardaddies?

Young women often seek out older men, and vice versa. This bears out in statistics of married couples gathered from all over the world; the husband is consistently older than the wife, rather than the other way around. And while there's exceptions to the rule - starlets in their golden years dating "boy toys", for instance - it's worth looking into for the insight it gives towards helping more people get what they want.

There's an evolutionary advantage to this. Women produce a set number of fertile eggs in their lifetime, whereas men continue to produce sperm their whole lives. So evolution would favor choosing a younger, more fertile female. At the same time, an older male has had more time to establish himself; even in ancient times, a male who was more mature would have staked out some territory for himself, and had the chance to prove himself to be a more capable provider.

Some of that carries over to modern times. A young man just starting out still has college to go through, a career to forge, and may not have made up his mind where he wants to go in life yet. A more mature man is established - he has his own home, his own car, everything's paid for, and the chances are good that he's not going to just suddenly fly off to Timbuktu never to be heard from again.

So of course, the richer men present a more attractive option. In seeking to date a millionaire, women can assure themselves that they're going to find someone more stable. In these trying economic times with global upheaval in the market on every front, financial stability is more important than ever.

The side benefits fit more into the relationship side of things. Not only is a sugardaddy more able to keep a woman in comfort and security, but chances are any mature male has outgrow some of the rough edges that a young male has. Mature men take their time with a woman. They're not in such a hurry, having seen what it's all about several times before. They have more patience, more understanding, and more nurturing instinct. Mature men better know how to treat a woman, and know the importance of flirting, foreplay, and having fun together. They'll stay in bed and cuddle afterwords, instead of jumping up to seek out their next adventure.

Ah, but what's in it for the men? Well, there's little arguing against the fact that younger women are more physically attractive. But it's also more invigorating to have a younger lover - they're more adventurous, spontaneous, and fun to be around. Older men very much look upon younger women as playmates, somebody to bring out their fun side. Given the pressures of maintaining a base of power and wealth, it's no surprise that when it's time for leisure, they want somebody who's ready for action and not somebody who will be too tired and complaining of a backache.

Of course, human behavior always poses more interesting questions than we can answer in one lifetime. But hopefully this explains some of the motivations for either side.

Jodie Brittain

What Your Partner's Film Tastes Says About Them

Nearly every online dating website has a section of the profile where singles looking for love can say what kind of films they like. Well, that's not just for comparison! Certain genres of films attract certain personalities, and you can tell a thing or two about them from these preferences.

Comedies (Teen)
example: American Pie, Porkys
Teen comedies usually revolve around sex, love, and the frustrations of functioning in the world. Fans of this kind of film feel awkward in life and identify with the protagonist as they fumble through a series of embarrassing mishaps. They have a very broad sense of humor and are very social.

Comedies (Alternative)
example: Monty Python, Clerks
These are the thoughtful, intelligent types. Monty Python and Kevin Smith appeal to the geeks and nerds, and generally a highly educated crowd. Look for analytical and scientific types to flock to these.

Science Fiction
example: Star Trek, A Scanner Darkly
Note that we do not include Star Wars, because that's an action/adventure series. True science fiction draws fans with a strong imagination who like to think. Think of quiet, contemplative people who are very well-read.

Superhero Series
example: Dark Knight, Transformers
Superheros and their uber-villians represent very simple morality plays. Fans of these films like their problems simplified so they can come up with a solid solution. They admire strength and courage, and are given to having a strong character.

Action
example: National Treasure, Star Wars
Similar to superhero films, action films are also a genre that appeal to people who enjoy the simple pleasures in life. But they're more into the action for action's sake. Look for thrill-seekers here, and people who are spontaneous and energetic.

Chick Flicks
example: The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants, Sex in the City
In spite of the name, both men and women who watch these kinds of films are very intelligent about emotions. To them, romance is one of the most important things in life. Look for people here who are empathic, sentimental, and tend towards kindness.

Scary Films and Thrillers
example: Saw, Hellboy
Contrary to what you might expect, the biggest fans of horror films are the kind of people who aren't scared easily. So look for people who are very imaginative here, and also very empathic! Also look for emotionally intense people with a good grasp of issues and who are not easily ruffled.

High Fantasy
example: Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter
Amongst fans of these films, you will find the starry-eyed dreamers for whole life is a wondrous spectacle. Look for people who may be older 'but refuse to grow up' - in a good way! They're spontaneous and creative, and love to be surprised.

Crime/Spy Drama
example: Ocean's Thirteen, The Borne Ultimatum
These films are more about what the characters are thinking than anything else, as the various characters pit their wits against each other. The fun in these films comes from trying to unravel the clues and figure out the puzzle. This crowd loves a mental challenge. Look for high IQs, sedate lifestyles, and a dramatic flair.

3D Animation
example: Shrek, Kung Fu Panda
The high-tech enthusiast is a typical fan of 3D animation. They might even have a career in computer graphics themselves. At the least, you'll find a young, smart, and hip crowd who is likely to have a Blackberry or an iPhone holstered. Also, parents love these kinds of films because their children do.

Anime
example: Fullmetal Alchemist, Deathnote
Now, anime fans are a very unique subset. Anime and manga (printed comics) run together and frequently hover around science fiction, action, and fantasy themes. So blend together the typical fans of those genres, but add in a double dash of creativity and a childish sense of wonder.

Jodie Brittain

From Online to Offline: How to Transition Smoothly

I see a great, informative post over at Evil Woobie on a subject we don't see covered often, How To Transition From Online Dating to the First Date.

It gives some good advice, and you have to chuckle over the part where you're advised to "...review past chats and take note of the promises that you gave in the past". Heh, we talk a lot when we're flirting and don't remember everything, so we have to keep our story straight, huh? Never truer were the words "an honest person never has to remember anything".

My own little part to add: people should be looser about meeting up for dates. So many online daters agonize for months before finally going out to meet in person. What's everybody so shy about? Don't you strike up conversations with the person next to you on the subway, or talk to people at work? So if you don't expect that every person will be "The One", and just go to have fun and socialize, you'll overcome your shyness and who knows, maybe even click with somebody that you thought wouldn't work out.

My other idea: for those people who don't know how to describe themselves, two of these kind of people can agree to meet for an "evaluation date". The purpose is just to socialize, get to know each other for an hour, then you both agree to go home and write the other person's profile! there, now you have a description of yourself as somebody else sees you. This can be a benefit, because people frequently forget to list their best qualities.

Meh, it's an idea...

Jodie Brittain

Salesmen Need Not Apply in Online Dating

I was quite amused at this story about a speed-dating event in which one guy showed up and just handed out resumes. Clearly, this guy has trouble transitioning from the online world to the offline. "Well", he must have thought, "You use a profile to land a date online. You use a resume to land a job offline. Why not?"

The "Why not?" is because people don't like to be treated like that. They showed up in person to see you, not read a piece of paper you've handed them. And they probably don't want your business card, either. Furthermore, when you print up resumes for a dating event, what you're really saying is "I can't think outside the office." Which is a shame, because - singles take note - the really interesting things in a relationship happen in the bedroom.

Like I've advised in earlier blog posts, you should also leave behind the phone, laptop, and other gizmos on a date, even a speed-date. There's a difference between being being tech-savvy and tech-dependent. When you can't be pried away from your gadget, you're telling your date that they will never have your undivided attention. A woman can look like Carmen Electra, be dressed like Leelu in the Fifth Element and be doing Chinese-acrobat cartwheels on her way to engaging in some carnal act with you from the back pages of the Kama Sutra, and you'd be all "Yeah, uh-huh, very nice, hon. Oh my God! My stock went up half a point!"

Jodie Brittain

Now How to Avoid Being "Just Friends"?

There's a lot to love in this list of six signs you’ve fallen into the “friend zone”, but while we're at it, why not try to find the point where we made the mistake to end up here, and then see what we could do differently? Follow along with the list, guys:

When your date mentions that she is seeing someone else: your mistake was in not making it clear that you thought of the two of you as being "serious"! In any case, when it gets this far, move to the dump stage. Try to end it gracefully.

1. Your date brings up sex, when you havn't had sex yet: When this happens, you have about five seconds to wiggle out of your clothes and jump her bones. This is the very last subtle hint that she's ready for sex right now, and if you don't make it happen right now, you're dead from the waist down in her book.
   
2. She lets you see her sweaty/dirty, etc.: That's it, relationship's over. You didn't make your move soon enough.
   
3. Saying "gee, thanks": She's not impressed! She's telling you to sweep her off her feet and rock her world, and you're being her timid little polite bellhop. You've got five seconds to Hulk out, or get lost.
   
4. The "buddy" or "brother" title: Your bad. If you act like a buddy or a brother to a woman, she will think of you that way! You should have already made it clear that you're not looking for a sister.
   
5. She tells you she's not interested: Well, then, the time has come to move on. At least you didn't mess up the above five items so badly that she couldn't even tell that that's what you're looking for. Try to end it gracefully.
   
   Jodie Brittain

You'll Get Her Attention Alright...

While we like the idea expressed by Official Dating Resource's suggestion to compose a funny and cocky subject line that will stand out like a beacon in a woman's in-box, we kind of don't like the tactic presented.

That challenge mentality only works on some kinds of women. But there's lots of other tricks that you can use to break the ho-hum monotony of reading online dating replies:

• The Seinfeld subject. A complete non-sequitur like "How do you get egg yolk stains out of a shag rug?" or "By any chance, do you work for a bathtub grouting company?"
  
• The Third-Party gambit. "Could you help me figure out this other woman's profile? I think I like her but I'm not sure."
  
• There's something on your face! Or, the online version, "You misspelled 'platonic'." "Can I help you correct the red-eye in your photo?" or "Why does your email point to 'collegecamgirls.com'?"
  
• Start a debate. "Your profile had me right up until you advocated for global warming research." or "Why in God's name do you like Michael Crichton novels?"
  
• Or make it a True Daily Double: "I bet you can't seduce me in 24 hours!"

Jodie Brittain
Slinky Dating Australia

elitemeeting.com – Elite Dating: the Busy Executive's Guide To Love

How is anyone supposed to date when they have all of these projects going on? You always say, "I'll make time when it's not so hectic." Yeah, but that time when it's not hectic just never seems to come around, does it? You have all those faces turned to you, all of your subordinates and assistants looking to you to lead them out of whatever jam they're in at the time. And keeping a relationship will be just one more source of pressure to deal with.

Somewhere along the way to building the society that favors the Ubermensch, we forgot to put in a playground. Or maybe that's how the global economy just shapes itself. We get so wrapped up in optimizing society for work, that we forget to make it easy to play in, too. As the macrocosm goes, so does the microcosm, and we end up back at the individual, who has to run like the rabbit earning capital for resources he may never get to enjoy.

The good news is, there are women who understand that. The old saying "Behind every successful man is a woman who believed in him." didn't come from nowhere, after all. One place where the needs of financially successful single men is in the elite dating websites.

These sites seek to save time and hassle by helping active, independent men to find their matching mate. They are geared towards the men more than anything. Gasp - how politically incorrect! Well, have you ever noticed how whenever the global market takes a nosedive, suddenly being political correct goes out the window and society returns to the old-fashioned, basic values that got them where they are to begin with? So there you have it.

It's no trouble at all to place a profile with an elite dating site geared to people who appreciate the finer things in life, and want someone who can function in a high-pressure world. You don't have to fill out the whole thing at one. You can change things whenever you need to update. Most of it can be handled from a mobile phone, which you can do during downtime. There's never any pressure on your part - women who are seeking a financially secure man are understandably appreciative of the opportunity to meet up with that rare catch, and will know better than to hold it against you if you had to run off to put out a fire.

And modern dating technology has improved so much in recent years. Dating websites for the wealthy have the benefit of an established decade or two of research, allowing them to make matches across a database for a whole range of requirements and characteristics. While that still doesn't mean that every match will be a perfect hit, it does at least raise the chances significantly.

Another refreshing aspect of elite dating is that the quality of the women are better. You typically only find women of supermodel status - or at least women who know how to keep themselves presentable. Women who go to seek out stable men are themselves more confident, so you avoid those latchy, clingy types. And if you prefer somebody more equal to your level, you can screen women for income and status as well.

All in all, it's a more rewarding experience than anything else the dating world has to offer. Compared to the other options, it's almost as if wealth-optimized dating websites were made just for the jet set!

Jodie Brittain